Hi Individualswife... after reading your post, I have to say 2 things: 1) you are in the minority and 2) you are sooooo lucky to have found your soulmate...some people spend their whole lives looking. (Oh, and 3.... congratulations on a wonderful family!) Jbean
Posts by JBean
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by concerned mama inin a previous post, some of you talked about your current age and number of years married.
subtract and voila, many of you married young, by which i mean before 20 years of age.
congrats to all of you couples, married long and short!
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A question out of curiosity...
by JBean inare jw's the only ones that "label" individual's apostate?
i'm asking because it seems that i've never heard anyone of any other faith make comments about apostates.
just curious...
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JBean
Interesting spin on that, Buff... thanks! Jbean
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Why can some question and others not
by joelbear inwe are not jehovah's witnesses because of a variety of circumstances, but one thing we all share is that we question.. what factors come together to make us questioners?.
intelligence?
but i know a lot of very smart non-questioning jehovah's witnesses.. bravery?
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JBean
Withheld: Wow... a kind of freaky point you made about Satan transforming himself into an angel of light... JW's use that scripture all the time... WHAT IF it really applies to them? Wow. (Actually, that thought had come across my mind a few times throughout my life, but it is so frightening to actually think about that I, in typical JW fashion, just ignored it!)
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It's just dawned on me...
by Billygoat in...that jw's have a hard time forgiving others because they themselves are rarely forgiven for their own sins.
according to their beliefs jehovah keeps track of every detail of your life...good and bad.
that even if you are humble and repent of your sins, that there is still no true forgiveness until the new system.
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Andi... you're post made me cry, esp. at the end... I know that I'd get the same reaction from my folks if I told them I was "finished" and movin' on. Hang in there.
Hey YoYo: her dad's reaction was EXACTLY what I referred to in my last comment on a different thread to you: "..... sorry... can't DO anything... not my place to DO anything... it's up to Jehovah to forgive you... blah, blah, blah." Bunch of nonsense if you ask me. OF COURSE he could forgive her (not that she needs much forgiveness anyway...) if he actually TOOK SOME RESPONSIBILITY for himself! JBean
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Why can some question and others not
by joelbear inwe are not jehovah's witnesses because of a variety of circumstances, but one thing we all share is that we question.. what factors come together to make us questioners?.
intelligence?
but i know a lot of very smart non-questioning jehovah's witnesses.. bravery?
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JBean
YoYo: I was born and raised in the "truth", and still am technically in. Have MAJOR doubts now... similar problem: lack of TRUTH in the organization, from the big-boys on down to some "friends" that will stab you in the back if they get the chance. Believe me when I say that I was raised in a GREAT family... many generations of JW's. They are all still in and I don't believe they have any issues... yet. One of the things that I'm beginning to hate about the organization is that they sugar-coat any issue, by saying that Jehovah will take care of "it" (whatever it may be). I see it in my own family... something happens (different degrees of "bad") and someone will utter "let Jehovah take care of "it"... let's just pray about "it" and "it" will be taken care of." Now, I believe in the power of prayer to heal oneself inwardly, and I'm sure there are some examples of where Jehovah apparently "stepped in" and saved the day... but in everyday situations... COME ON FOLKS... it's frustrating for me that my JW friends and family don't DO anything!!!! If you ask me it's a very non-involved and apathetic attitude to have. I HAD this attitude my entire life (until now) and didn't even know it!!!! I feel that God WANTS us to find a way to handle our problems...he created us with minds!!! I was also very judgemental (to the point of obnoxious) of non-JW's... I figured "we" (JWs) had it all worked out and pity the poor person who didn't join us. I didn't realize I was this judgemental until I took a step back (fairly recently) and went "Whoa!"... I don't want to be like this anymore! I feel now that God will judge everyone on an individual basis... JW or NOT... and only HE will decided who "makes it" and who doesn't. Now, come on, YoYo... I know you're going to say that that's exactly what you and every JW believes... but come on: deep, deep down... we are (were) taught to believe that it's really just us JW's that belong to the organization that will reeeeaaaalllyyyy make it, right???? After all that you've read here and all that's coming down the pike for the organization (UN issue, child abuse, etc.)... I think the only reason you'll stay in is that you actually like having blinders on... for some bizarre reason it makes you feel safe. However, since you're "here"... why not take a step back yourself and use your "powers of reasoning". : )
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A question out of curiosity...
by JBean inare jw's the only ones that "label" individual's apostate?
i'm asking because it seems that i've never heard anyone of any other faith make comments about apostates.
just curious...
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Are JW's the only ones that "label" individual's apostate? I'm asking because it seems that I've never heard anyone of any other faith make comments about apostates. Just curious...
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early marriage
by concerned mama inin a previous post, some of you talked about your current age and number of years married.
subtract and voila, many of you married young, by which i mean before 20 years of age.
congrats to all of you couples, married long and short!
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I agree... JW's in a sense force marriage on KIDS way to young to know who they even are yet! Can't go to college, can't date, can't, can't, can't... well... I up and got married at 19 also...to get out of the house and to feel like I was doing something productive! Well...also got divorced 2 years later (no kids, thankfully) and now I can't believe I ever even LIKED the guy, never mind LOVE him. I see him around town occassionally and don't have ANYTHING in common with him. Feels like an entire lifetime ago...
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My boyfriend is a JW
by little_red_birdie ini am just a young teenager, and my first ever boyfriend is a jw!!
at that time i didn't even know what a jw was, no one at school ever really mentioned anything.
i had no idea what i was getting into.
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JBean
Hi Red & welcome! You sound very intelligent and kind... this may help with your bfriend... don't give up on him. Whatever else you can do for him at this time in his life, if he's not already baptized into his faith, CONVINCE him NOT TO GET BAPTIZED. He may get slack about this decision not to get baptized, but they'll have NO control over him. Once he gets baptized... forget it! They've got him in emotional blackmail. This is very important!!!! I have family who were raised in the faith but never got baptized... the most JW's can say about them is "... well, there's always hope..." They get treated 100% better than those family members who are in the faith (baptized) and decided it's not for them... and want to quietly back away: well forget about it!!! NOT happening without much heartache. Keep posting! Look foward to it!
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An Interesting Dilemna Part 2
by mindfield inokay, okay, so this isn't really a dilemna.
i just want to hear your thoughts on this.... it's co week here in our cong...(woohoo) and i haven't went to the kh for about a month.
my sis told me she'd really like it if i'd come, maybe just for tonight, since it's special (cough, cough) and to sit with her and her hubby.
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I just love Fred!
Mindfield... isn't there a Charlie Brown special or something similar on tonite that you really need to see instead? : ) -
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I FEEL SO USED
by Serena ini have been "fooling around" with brother charlie for a couple months.
going to his apartment and spending the night with him.
i am so in love with him, i would do anything for him, anything at all.
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JBean
Serena,
The basic reason a JW should not date/marry, etc. a non-JW is that everyone in the borg is afraid that the JW will LEARN THE TRUTH about the borg from their non-JW love interest and leave! Period. It has happened and will continue to happen.. no matter how slowly. This guy DOES need to make a decision... you also need to make one. You KNOW what to do.. just please do it. ps: as others have said, marrying/having a relationship with a JW (if they continue to remain one) is VERY DIFFICULT... more so than other religions, because the JW's expect so much, are very judgemental and often times stalk their members to assure conformity! If he doesn't leave the religion (or at least become "inactive") you will have a VERY HARD TIME. Please start believing the people on this board. THEY KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE!!!
Jbean