I was one of those hard dirt clods that took a lot of work to turn me into fine soil. But I was baptised and so was my oldest son on the same day, when that same boy was disfellowshipped 12 years later and I was told I was weak and untheocratic by NOT shunning him, I tried to continue to go to meetings then eventually I seen it as a inconsistent untruth*,now I am out and so are all three of my children. I haven't been to a meeting since 2004.