I also feel hypocrisy is needed/required when getting out of or dealing with this religion. If you're not willing to accept that, it's going to be a lot harder.
I rejected hypocrisy and that is why I left. I didn't want to be hypocritical - I wanted to truly exist, not be an actor in somebody's else's script. I realize that it is a process to 'get out' but getting out means just that - getting out. Your ass must be getting sore from sitting on the fence.
What is 'a lot harder' is to continue to be dishonest - it takes a toll on your personal identity issues - hypocrisy is dishonest - both to yourself and others. Recovery is dependent upon honesty.
The situation you describe is selfish - it is an attempt to retain control, not just of yourself but also of the people around you.
Getting out does not require hypocrisy - it requires courage.