I know you read this board, and I know I say it often, and I know sometimes I post stuff you may not like, but I love you, and I really mean it, and I don't call you as often as I should. I'll try to call today (it's 2:30 am).
To my Dad
by Cygnus 3 Replies latest jw friends
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onacruse
Oh, I love my Dad, and I know he loves me...but we haven't had a meaningful conversation for over 30 years.
Cygnus, I wish you all the best in nurturing the relationship you have with your Dad...
like you, I will keep trying.
Craig
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kwintestal
I won't be calling my dad. He'd probably hang up on me again.
Kwin
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onacruse
Kwin, I don't know your circumstances, nor do I want to divert attention from what was, I presume, intended to be a personal message from Cygnus to his Dad.
However, the angst I felt in this post touched me very personally. And so, if I may offer this small bit of perspective about parent/child relationships between ex-JWs and JWs--
Both my parents are close to death (by the natural cause of old age). As the years have gone by, I faced an issue: Would I let the damned religion of my upbringing stand between us? I say, would I let it stand between us...because, yes, in many ways it would have been easier to have written them off as decrepit brain-damaged illogical stupid pathetic numbingly ignorant self-deceiving people who have nothing left for themselves but to die and get it over with.
And, yes, I have, at times, felt exactly that way within my soul; sometimes I feel guilty about having such feelings; sometimes I feel absolutely justified in what might, to use a characteristic Biblical term, "righteously justified" about those feelings.
But all that said and done, they are my parents, and I am their first-born son, and nothing in this universe can change that fact.
Therefore, I will continue, in whatever way I can, to have, or attempt to have, a relationship with them, until the day that they die.
They owe me that, and I owe them that...and **** and *** and **** any religion that tries to come between us.
Craig