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  http://www.leedstoday.net/ViewArticle2.aspx?SectionID=39&ArticleID=938994 Violent streak emerged just days after we were married Exclusive By Geoff Fox IT was supposed to be happily ever after. After a whirlwind romance, Jehovah's Witnesses Eileen and John Daley tied the knot on September 19 last year at a lavish ceremony held at the Kingdom Hall centre in Undercliffe where they had first met. But just three months and one day later their relationship reached boiling point when Daley flew into a rage and threw scalding tea over his wife.
  He claims he was angry because his wife had suggested he was a gold digger.
  But Mrs Daley dismissed that as a lie, saying her husband ? who had not worked a full week in the time she had known him ? had been in a rage for hours after several banks turned down his request for a loan to start a domestic cleaning business.
  Speaking exclusively to the YEP, Mrs Daley told how her husband's violent streak had first revealed itself less than a fortnight after their wedding ? which had been attended by 170 guests.
  Over the next 12 weeks the violence and mood swings grew, but she said she forgave him each time because the rest of their relationship was so good.
  "We were really wonderful together," said Mrs Daley, a former model and window dressing manager.
  "We did everything, we were learning Latin American dancing, and used to go to shows. We were like two daft kids.
  "People said we were absolutely made for each other. They said it was unbelievable."
  Bizarre
  The couple had met in 2001 at the Kingdom Hall Centre at a Jehovah's Witnesses meeting.
  It wasn't until the end of 2003 that romance began to blossom when Daley ? who had previously met and married a cancer victim 35 years older than him ? went out for dinner with Eileen. Within weeks he proposed.
  Mrs Daley, whose first husband died in 1995, says she dismissed it out of hand at first but he popped the question again on several occasions before she finally agreed to go down the aisle.
  "We had been a couple for nine months before we were married. He said he would've married me at the registry office any weekend and wearing anything. I joked with him 'is there something you're hiding?'"
  Her joke was far closer to the mark than she dared realise.
  It was shortly after returning from honeymoon at Center Parcs in Nottingham that Daley grabbed his wife by the wrist. It was the first indication her husband was not all he seemed.
  Daley moved in with his new bride at her Rodley home, putting his own house at Holybrook Avenue in Bradford's Greengates up for sale.
  Mrs Daley described some of his behaviour as bizarre.
  He took to wearing dark glasses at all times, sitting in near darkness in the evenings and claiming he was light sensitive. He even wore the glasses on his wedding day, only taking them off for the few minutes vows were exchanged.
  "He was more like a Victorian husband at times," said mother-of-two Mrs Daley. "In that respect, he was older than me. He once said 'I've never been out with a lady before with short sleeves and her arms showing'.
  "He had old ideas both in terms of dress and decoration. He used to pick me up on things like when my underskirt was showing. It's a bit sick really."
  His behaviour prompted him to seek medical advice where he was told to go to anger management classes ? but the classes failed to curb his temper.
  Despite being unable to hold down a string of odd jobs including cleaning and catering, Daley harboured ambitions to set up his own company ? even purchasing a mobile phone and brief case a week before trawling around banks trying to secure a business loan.
  Shame
  Their negative response, coupled with his wife's refusal to loan him the money he needed, sparked a series of events on December 20 that led to him throwing boiling water over her neck and chest.
  "After he had done it he just stood and stared. His face was like a mask. I looked at him and thought: 'I don't want to ring the police'.
  "I rung my daughter instead. I was in shock. He denied it when she came up with her husband."
  She added: "I daren't sit down. My head was spinning. He said to my daughter 'I'm not going, all this is mine, she is mine, I've bought her'."
  Mrs Daley's daughter called the police who arrested him and took him away. That was the last time she saw him.
  "He has had a very, very bad life. He was put into care with his brothers when he was nine months old. He has never been involved in anything stable in his life. I thought when he married me I could make him stable.
  "I feel so ashamed about what's happened. I keep wondering if there's anything I could have said to stop it happening. I would never think in my wildest dreams that this would have happened."
  Mrs Daley said she was "absolutely disgusted" with the five-month sentence her husband received at court, claiming it made a mockery of British justice.
  She said she had received a great deal of support from fellow Jehovah's Witnesses adding that her husband's actions totally contravened the strong moral code of their faith which states a husband must treat his wife as his own body.
  She does not have grounds to annul the marriage but is now considering divorce, although official proceedings cannot start until the first anniversary of the marriage.
  "I cannot hate him," she confessed. "I feel sorry for him."
  But she added: "The times I've taken him back and forgiven him. He wouldn't leave his past alone. He thought the world owed him a living. He couldn't hide his other side.
  "I would tell other women what has happened to me and let them make up their own mind. I wouldn't have married him if I'd known all this."
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