I left my JW husband and the JW's, my oldest son was 18, my youngest son was 13. I talked to both the boys and told them I was leaving their Dad and divorcing him. I was leaving with another man from my childhood that I had reconnected with. He was helping me get out of the verbally and abusive marriage I had been in for 30 years. Ok so I ask my youngest son to come with me. He said no he wanted to stay with his friends and his school. Both the boys said they understood why I was leaving their Dad, because he is an idiot and jerk.
Here is my story, I leave, divorce my son's Dad and I get joint custody of my youngest son who comes and spends a lot of time with me but not quite the 120 days a year. I don't pay child support directly, because the ex and my son live in the house I jointly own which covers that. Anyway what happens is everyone of the JW's tell everyone I abandoned my sons. My childrens father threatened me with death if I took the youngest one from the house. I would have done it anyway if he would have just come with me.
They told people I had run off with a man I met on the internet, which was not accurate. This man and I grew up together long before I ever became a JW's. They told people I never saw my sons, another lie. Even with the youngest one coming for his weekends they still run their mouths and lies. My youngest son came to hate his Dad and the religion for the petty lies he found his Dad circulating about me and refused to go to meetings anymore by the time he was 15. Then when the opportunity came along he moved out of the house and is living with his big brother who is now 21 and supporting himself in the same town, and has an apartment. My son still wants to remain in his home town, but has come to hate the JW's. My oldest son is out of the JW now too and disfellowshipped. In the mean time their Dad has remarried another JW women he knew for 3 months and they both continue to lie about me, and now our sons. I am now married to my lost childhood love for 2 years and we have a new home which we have been trying to get my youngest son who is now 17 to move into his bedroom. But he wants to stay with his brother, and he is doing fine in school. Both the boys like their new Step Dad far more than they do their own Dad because he is good to them. Both my sons say the best thing that happen to them was when I left their Dad, because he is completely self-centered brut.
Jehovah's Witnesses thrive on the lies they create about people who leave. And their is always a negative twist to the story about the one who left right or wrong. I know of 4 JW women who have left their husbands in the congregation I was in alone. 2 of us had children under 18 and the children stayed with the Dad. The young Mom eventually got custody of her 3 children is working and taking care of them fine. The husband had threatened her if she took the kids, just as my ex-jw husband threatened me about taking our son. Threatened to kill me. Do JW tell that, the potental violent personalities of them men they are leaving? No of course not.