My bf is an ex-JW and I am trying to come to terms with his family dynamics. He hasn't talked to any of his relatives who are JW's since he split with JW ex-wife. I was raised to know that that family is #1 regardless of what decisions you or they make in their lifetimes. I was raised ELCA (Lutheran). I had a very easy-going childhood. How in the world can anyone alienate themselves from their own son? Their own grandson? Their own brother? Neither of us have children, but we want to have children together, and I am so scared of this influence and the effect it could have on my future children. He assures me they will never have anything to do with us as long as they refuse to talk with him without demoralizing him. I am scared they will try to come back into his life when we have children because of the children and not because they want to have a relationship with my bf.
They won't talk to him, but his JW mother and ex-wife will call my mother (who is one of the most awesome persons in the world) to tear my bf apart. They say he is manipulative and they are concerned I will be hurt by him. I have never heard of a mother calling a son such awful things before. It tears me up to see how hurt he is. I don't believe he is manipulative. We have a wonderful relationship and he listens to how I feel and backs off when I tell him to. I never felt like I did something I didn't want to do with him. Are they saying these things to try to drive a wedge between us so that he will come back to them? My mother knows their phone #'s now and doesn't answer when they call. I feel so badly that my mother has to screen her calls.