Hi Guys, I am feeling really down right now....in fact a couple of nights ago I felt like ending it all. I know that some of you know that I work in the mental health industry, but when it comes to oneself it doesn't seem to work.
I am currently accused of being after someone's husband when I am not. In fact I stupidly agreed to be his alibi so he could get some peace of mind from his wife by chatting to another woman.....yes he loves another woman, but his wife thinks it is me!!!!!
I feel sick in my stomach all the time as this is something I would never do. I was stupid to agree to being an alibi...and I know this....but I am finding the insult and the accusation hard to bare.
His wife does not know that I am aware of her accusations....her husband told me. I just feel like I served a purpose and that's that.....too bad. I hope that maybe she might even read this and realise it isn't me...but I doubt it....
I am not good at being falsly accused.....it happened in the WTBTS when I was a kid and I don't deal with false accusation now.
Sorry to hear about that Ana. You've probably already thought of this, but do you have a colleague which you can talk to? It probably helps to do that in person.. Does this woman have any reason to think you're the one he's interested in other than the fact you agreed to being his alibi?
"It is not so much that you use your mind wrongly--you usually don't use it at all. It uses you. This is the disease." -Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now
I don't know what the right approach is, but it seems to me that there are a couple alternatives. You could tell the man to get this straightened between him and his wife right away or you will tell the wife who it is.
You could also tell both the man and his wife to leave you alone and not talk to you for a few months or until they get their lives straightened out. Tell them both that you do not want to be involved in their personal problems. Of the two approaches, I like the second one the best. It allows you to take action and should help lessen your bad feelings. Also, it makes a clear, objective statement that you are not, and do not want to be involved with this mess.
Thanks Introspection for you post. Yes I had thought of approaching a colleage, but unless he/she knew the persons concerned I didn't see that it would help a great deal.
I guess I am concerned with my reputation. And no, the woman has NO reason to think I would do such a thing other than her vivd imagination.
Larc.....thankyou....I was hoping you would turn up here. But I cannot do either. The woman has no idea what is going on. She apparently told her husband that I was a bad influence on their marriage if he was staying up in instant message to talk to ME all night. It never was and never has been me. It is another woman entirely; a woman who does not deserve this either but does not realize what she is walking in to. This man is greatly into mind control, and I must say extremely good at it. As I said to Introspection, I think my fear is also based on my own reputation as I feel this woman could pass this around the whole forum. I have broken all contacts with IM. Thankyou Larc for your insightful post.
Ianao, Thankyou...lol's..I think you are right. The woman will certainly have a shock when she discovers it is not me. And she WILL discover this. I just don't want her to be hurt. I know that sounds silly; but I am worried about her. Thankyou for your post.
