My mother died from breast cancer less than a year after my high school graduation. right before her illness she had finally left my abusive step-father and was close to seeing the light about the borg. Then she got sick and the elders told her she needed to return to her husband or be out of Jah's favor. Facing death and wanting to believe inthe resurrection, she reluctantly went back and then it was like she couldn't take it anymore. She gave up and let herself die. What should have taken six months took six weeks. She finally died actually from loss of blood, refusing a transfusion of course.
My step father had kicked me and my two sisters out of the house as we graduated and tried to say that we were rebellious horrible children. We were the only ones of our friends that never got in trouble or lived a double life. My eldest sister was a pioneer for christ's sake. Anyway, on mom's deathbed he apologized to us and told us he knew the abuse and horrible home life we had was all his fault and he was sorry. we forgave him wanting some closure and that was that. He took my little brother and sister, 5 and 10 years old and went on his merry way.
Within six months of her death I was df'd and one of my sister's was da'd. Neither one of us received any counseling or was even asked if we were repentant. The elders decided on their own and weren't taking no for an answer. Shortly after this my step father remarried and moved cross country with my brother and sister and I never heard from them again for eight years. I tried to keep contact for awhile but he moved a lot, just as he had when we were at home, running from his reputation and trying to hide his abusive ways. Found out he never gave them our messages or letters but told them they could talk to us if they wanted. So it looked to them that we didn't want to have anything to do with them which was completely wrong. In the mean time he never spoke of our mother to them and if we were mentioned it was to say how horrible we were as children and how he tried so hard to correct us and to no avail. Basically we were demon influenced sinners now that we were worldly. His new wife was never a mother to them and he had a couple of them over the years. You see they each left him and the borg because they couldn't take his abuse. One was even my age, yuck!!!
Finally, my brother left when he was 19 and called me to invite me to his wedding. It has been a slow and sparse relationship but we still talk for the last three years. He is now going to move by me this summer and attend college. Hope this means our relationship will grow stronger. My eldest sister finally left the borg around the same time my brother did. My youngest sister is still in but unbaptized. A year ago all she could think about was getting away from her father and getting out. We even looked into gettting her emancipated.
We were all supposed to be together this xmas for the first time in 12 years, all five of us. Now the youngest is going back to meetings even though she is away from her father and living with one of her former step moms(step dad is df'd after his last marriage failure and still wouldn't let one of my sisters take her). Can you believe him? That he can still be that cruel to not let her come to one of us. The step mom isn't even in the borg anymore! So she is going back because she is lonely. She is so smart and has so much potential for her future. Anyway the JWs told her that she shouldn't come because we are all apostates and celebrating xmas. I haven't seen my sister in 11 years!!!
I left her a message tonight and want to talk to her but not sure how hard to press or what to say. I am devastated and at a loss of what to do.