and how to take the threat of suicide seriously.
i was wondering if anyone whos been in abusive/controlling relationships have had a spouse threaten to kill him/herself to get you to do something their way?
my experience: when the ex cheated on me and i was going to leave, and he seen i was serious about leaveing he threatened to kill himself several times . getting real upset and turning the situation to where I had to comfort HIM. i told the elders about it and they said he's just trying to manipulate you so that i'd do what he wants ( and it worked) and one elder (which blew my mind) told me to tell him if he's going to kill himself to slit his wrists vertically instead of horizontally. i hated the ex for what he'd done but the thought of him killing himself and it being my fault was killling me..so i stayed.