At least growing up I was told it was Satan's house. We just made the long cross-Canada drive to attend my wife's grandfather's funeral.
My wife has had somewhat strained relations with her parents since she became a JW, 8 years ago, and it seemed that this visit was going to be more of the same. One of the first things her mom said, was that they were having a Mass for the funeral in a church. I think she expected that my wife wouldn't go. At first she wasn't comfortable with the idea. She didn't say anything, but I could tell.
So we talked about love, God's love, respect for God, and respect for her family. In the end she thought that (in her words) "It was a matter of concience." to attend the service at the church.
You know that really got me thinking. How many JW's don't go to support, love and respect their family members and close friends because they don't want to step foot in a church. It's sad really. I went and I didn't see one person become converted, and not one person asked me if I wanted a bible study afterward the service either.
Would a God of love be offended if you go to remember someone that you love who's died? I doubt it.
P.S. On the plus side of this we got to see our family that we haven't seen for 1 1/2 years. Was nice to see them all. My wife and her parents seem to be getting along better too.