How Much Have You Changed Since Leaving?

by Nosferatu 6 Replies latest jw friends

  • Nosferatu

    I'm not talking about changes you've made in your life such as celebrating holidays and birthdays. How much have you changed as a person? How has your personality changed?

    The following has changed for me since I left 8 years ago:

    - I stand up for myself more
    - I'm more outgoing
    - I enjoy helping people
    - I've become friendlier, even with strangers
    - I focus on reality instead of fantasy
    - I quit caring what other people think about me
    - I'm much more independant

    So how has your personality changed?

  • Insomniac

    I find I'm more willing to admit that I don't know the answers to every religious question, and more apt to actually do (open-minded) research to learn more.

    I find myself listening to others more, and trying to be helpful in more practical ways. Without the vision of an eternal paradise on Earth distracting me, I'm more interested in making sure the homeless guy on the corner has a sandwich, not a Watchtower.

    As I look over my shoulder less and less, the tension is draining away from me, and I'm happier. This manifests itself in less self-abusive behavior, such as overeating/drinking, driving way too fast, and chewing my nails to the quick.

    As I've felt the sting of being shunned for being different (first by worldly people, more recently by my loving Christian brothers and sisters), I've made an effort to be less judgemental of others. I'm trying to embrace humanity as a whole, even those who aren't my same race/faith/nationality/political affiliation/age/educational level.

    I don't get it right all the time, but I think I've made some progress in all these areas.

  • BrendaCloutier

    I think of the changes in me and I think 180 degrees. But really it's been more of an upward spiral, except for the few years of drunken debauchery. Then I was just killing myself in the name of fun. Yeah, but it was great fun for a while

    I think for myself. I guess I always did, just kept it contained.

    I stand up for myself. I help others to do the same (alcoholism, domestic violence, etc)

    I treat others as I want to be treated, no matter who they are, what they look like, where they've been, or what their religion is, etc.

    I would like to think I actually behave in the manner that JW's would like the world to think they behave....



  • Brummie

    Nos, I would apply all the same things that you have listed, I'd say I was totally unrecognisable compared to what I was like as a JW. People meet me these days and say they would have never have guessed I had been a JW for so many years, yet just after leaving the JWs, people used to say I still act like one and they could tell that I had been one.


  • DanTheMan

    I hope I'm not JWish at all anymore. I look back with embarrassment at my self-righteous cult persona.

    I still can't get laid though.

    Dan, despised by JW and worldly chicks alike

  • Farkel

    : How Much Have You Changed Since Leaving?

    You should have been there when I was IN!!!!


  • Celia
    You should have been there when I was IN!!!!

    Farkel, please tell us ! What kind of guy were you when you were in ?

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