Hi All,
Sorry I've been MIA for a while. Started a new job and I'm swamped. I'm only taking out time now during lunch to get something off my chest. I've been out of the Borg for around 4 years now (the happiest ones ever), but my immediate family are still in. Last night I get a call (long-distance) from my mom. Her exact words 'I'm going to lose it... your dad did it again!' Now mind you, my dad USED to be an elder..for like 15 years. He stepped down a while ago (for economic reasons). Nevertheless still viewed in the cong. like one of the best teachers. (Yeah, if they only knew!) So, my mom is crying to me on the phone, because my knuckle-head dad signed a car-loan for someone (NOT a JW, just a friend), unbeknownst to my mom. Now WHY my dad did this is beyond me! He's been known to lie to my mom many times before, and we ALWAYS knew when things weren't right. She's fuming cause he did this AGAIN (not the 1st time he loaned money to this idiot) and he keeps covering up about it.
Anyway, while my mom was on the phone w/ me, she took another call and said she'd call me right back.. it was the elder. She calls me back and says they're gonna come (another elder with the 1st) to talk to them tonight. Now, WHAT on God's green earth are they going to tell my dad? Uh.. stop lying to your wife. Hello! They've gone through this before?! It's just SO ridiculous!
So, I ask to speak w/ my dad -- who is outside in the garage cause my mom won't let him in the house. He gives me his side of the story (which I don't buy)... and ends up (maybe) realizing what a stupid thing he did ... by keeping something like this from my mom, by lending money that they don't have (I swear, I can't for the life of me think how ANY bank would loan him money), by jeapordizing the financial well-being of HIS own family, etc.. He got emotional with me on the phone.. but I told him how I saw it. That even after all of the studying he's done from the Bible, I couldn't even think that someone without that knowledge, would do something that stupid (the lying, etc). (Aside: in all honesty, I really can't see anyone being that stupid, but I threw in their the comment of all his Bible knowledge to see if I struck some sort of cord with him.)
I guess the parts that sting me most are 1) the elders are going to come over and do what? they can't remedy the situation..my dad's lost it. Even HE said last night, 'yeah, I know..I think I need some professional help' (duh!); 2) my mom in her anger is resorting to violence with my dad (something that I doubt will come up at the elder conference they're having tonight, which coincidentally is the straw that broke the camel's back with me, and what made ME take off out of that house); 3) that my father is making these stupid decisions (probably to hide some even uglier truth about something; God knows what? I've contemplated an affair to cover-up; a homosexual interest; drugs?) and finally 4) that my dad said he was going to be in the garage in the morning and not wake up. What a great thing to say to your daughter... yeah, just tell me you're going to kill yourself.
I think they're both wacked... and I've strongly suggested they get professional help (together and separately)... I think my mom is FINALLY there..and willing to go. Please pray that she gain some insight from going and maybe will see that she doesn't have to live the way she is.. thinking the Society and the elders are going to give them the answers.
Sorry for the long post.. I just needed to get it off my chest with others who understand.
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