It took a while, but spiritually, emotionally and phycotically, I am now in a place where I can look at the stars and not see castles to be lived in. Instead I simply see a star in the sky and admire that star. Such thinking has made even my weekly grocery shopping an adventure.
In conclusion I wouldn't say I am in touch with your reality, nor need you be in touch with my reality. What is important is that, we don't have to be in touch with each other's reality to be friends.
That's how far I have come.