I am friends with an elderly 'worldly' woman, who was unaware I am an ex-jw. She employs a JW husband and wife pioneer couple for odd jobs around her house- mowing, cleaning etc. The couple has been working for her and her recently deceased husband for years.
Just before the 2019 international convention, despite the fact that the husband was fighting his last battle with illness, the couple kept asking him to attend the convention with them. They were a friendly couple and didn't mind the request but understandably, couldn't attend due to illness.
Now here is the 'typical jw' part.
The woman I am friends with believed the jw couple to be genuine acquaintance's. They had been involved with the elderly couples lives for years. They had persistently asked the couple to attend meetings and found no problem with talking about their jw faith, yet despite that, my friend didn't judge them, she and her husband simply accepted them for who they were. They are wealthy, staunch, well- mannered church going catholics by the way.
When her husband died, she was hurt that the jw couple did not attend the funeral because it was held in a catholic church. They had pestered them for years about attending conventions and meetings, yet couldn't offer any basic, human respects in return.
It makes me think that all the hours spent witnessing, all the videos, magazines and zoom meetings that jw's feed into their brains, couldn't help them recognise real friendship when it is staring them in the face, or offer any real support. Any good opinion my friend had of the couple, built up over years was diminished - just like that, once the jw's showed their true colours.