Hi Esmeralda,
I have been flowing your posts since the begining and your story is similar as to what I went thru in this organization, they are not about "love" they are about social circles and God forbid you are single, educated, funny, nice, smart, with good personality and above average looking. You are essentially a target from anyone. I was a target from a 'sister' in the congregation who is twice my age older, could be my mother, she was relentless, accused me of "elbowing" her during a meeting, it was ridiculous and disgusting. Did elders helped me NO, did they knew she was lying YES, did they tell me NO, did they do something about it NO!!! I believe it was because she is married to an MS, they have money and make big contributions to the KH with checks so the COBE knows how much money they are contributing.... the whole thing was disgusting, she followed me, tried to bullied me, tried to intimidate me, would spread rumors about me for over 5 years... because I would ignore her and walked pass her not acknowledging her or even look or make eye contact, practically i acted like she didn't exist and focus my energies on real good people in the congregation. She hated hated me for it so what did she do when nothing else worked?? She confronts me during a meeting very aggressively and ready to fight like a chola from the hood, very bully and a gang member, demanding me if I had a problem with her... since i told her i had no idea what she was talking about and told her I don't even know her or anything about her as a matter of fact I told her I don't know what she was talking about. I told the elders that same day what she had done, never heard anything back to what happended with that.... no help no nothing
Move a year later, she accused me of hitting her during a meeting and waited 1 year to tell the elders!!!! I was like OMGGG she is crazy, she needs professional help, she is off her meds or something. I thought poor her she has security issues nothing to do with me, she could be my mother, since she is that old, and acting like a high school playground bully because other girls half her age are better looking than her.. but you know what? Thanks to that experience how the elders lack of handling this matter that has been happening for over 5 years which they were aware and didn't put it stop to it when they were supposed, it made it look like I was at fault for her to accuse me of this...... I realize no way they are being led my holy spirit and thanks to that it opened my eyes into learning TTATT and came accros this forum.
Esmeralda, you don't need them, believe me, I am also like you, I am the only JW in my family, I got baptized when I was 18, I am in my 30s and still the only one, my parents and sisters are not JWs. All these years I regret the many times I separated myself from my non JW family and didn't enjoy celebrating with them many many things, my nephews, nieces graduations, baby showers, birthdays, etc.... . Think of it, based on WT teachings they will die at Armageddon because they are not JWs.... Use this opportunity to tell them that you determine this religion is not for you or not the true religion that Jesus christ established, he came to abolish the burden of religion, and appreciate it if you are left alone, tell your study conductor you appreciate your friendship with her and hope to continue that friendship and maybe go out for a cup of coffee or something once in a while. And if you don't hear from her again, then it's plain and simple they weren't your friends to begin with. "by their fruits you will know them". You are fortunate you didn't get baptized, enjoy your life and continue with your education, you will have a very successful life and find a partner who has the same goals as you.
DO NOT LET THEM DRAG YOU BACK IN!!!
