I approach elders like a skilled lawyer, more than once I applied this. I would ask is it better to reveal a serious sin or is it better to hide. Of course we know the answer I received. Then I would quote their elders book page 38 paragraph 19. And proceed to reason with them that it says in elders book that if elder hid his immorality more than a few years and he had evidence of Gods blessing on his life he could hold his job as an elder.
I had one elder tell me there was nothing in book that couldn't be in WT mag , I said bull, then I made him get it out over phone and I asked him if they would put that paragraph in WT mag there would be mutiny. I also said ,would a publisher brother be still on microphones or book counter if he hid immorality. To be honest this elder didn't even realise it was in there , I said if your worried ask your wife if it seems a two tier system. Then I would ask how do you gauge Gods blessing on his life so he can keep his job. We all know it's a BOYS club.