first mother...a friend of mine--in her 60's.
her son--is 42. he is less than useless. his last long term relationship ended 3 years ago when his wife to be called off the wedding and kicked him out of her house. he went back to live with his mummy--rent free. he cant hold a job for more than a few days. he has a crack cocaine habit. he has bled his mother dry scrounging money to feed his habit. she wont refuse him because he has told her he owes money to his dealers and will end up face down if he doesnt pay up. what else can she do ?
second mother--is my first wife--also in her 60's.
our son is also 42. he and his second wife have a successful business and a quality lifestyle. a lovely son--now 3 yrs 6 months---a very nice house with land in the New Forest UK...and just got back from yet another holiday--Barbados
his mother must be very proud of him.
err--no. She shuns him--has nothing to do with him--why ? because he decided her religion wasnt for him and got disfellowshipped. he hasnt looked back.
i am very proud of him--and will be with them at christmas.