I'm going to meet up with a Df'ed friend for a drink tomorrow.

by BLISSISIGNORANCE 4 Replies latest jw friends

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  BLISSISIGNORANCE

  After 9 months of being inactive and deprogramed, I have become really comfortable with saying to dubs how I feel about the borg and how it's betrayed them. I guess it's because now I don't care what the borg do to me...............they have NO authority over me, I don't let them.

  So for the last couple of months hubby and I have been sharing our feelings and thoughts with any dubs we meet. Yesterday at work, I was sitting there thinking about a friend I'd made in the borg and how I would like to catch up with her again. She got df'ed about a year ago and I have not seen her since. So I just picked up the phone and rang her at work. She took my call and was really happy I'd called. We decided we would meet tomorrow to go shopping together and then have a drink. She has a fair idea about my predicament and is very keen to hear where I'm at. Her x is still a dub and so is her mum. I get the feeling that it's only her family she misses, not the borg. I just want to rekindle our friendship, but also have an opportunity to tell her some things about the WTS. The very facts that made me happy to be free of the cult that ruins so many lives and controls so many people.

  I guess I'm witnessing for the other side now. I bumped into a dub just tonight as I picked up some pizzas for dinner and told him I was no longer attending the meetings because the borg hurt me and my family. I'm so tierd of the game and the crap they go on with, the rationalising and denial.

  So, if anyone can suggest a few points I can present to my friend, some thought provoking questions, I'ld really appreciate the help and support. After all, we all want to see people see the borg for what it really is.

  Thanks and cheers.

  Bliss.
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  run dont walk

  well, if she is already df'd, not much to ask her about JW land is there, is she still attending (looking to be re-instated).

  The best is of course all the doctrine changes (1914 especially), and for sure the child abuse scandals. The UN scandal, Watchtower making a billion dollars a year, since these are somewhat high profile, she must of heard about them. Just ask so what do you think about all this ????

  How is family treating you ???? Alot of times this can be the hardest, regardless of what going on at the Watchtower.

  Please post again after you talk to her, it will be interesting to read how she has changed over the course of a year. And what she is heading towards.

  Good Luck and enjoy !!!!!!!!!
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  Brummie

  BLISS, just be yourself and enjoy the time you spend with her, dont go with an agenda to "get her out", she will most likely detect it. Your a cool person so she will enjoy your company and then she will be eager to ask you questions about the dubs. Answer the questions that are important to her.

  Have fun

  Brummie
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  RunningMan

  I agree with Brummie. Sometimes the best attack is just to live a good, happy, non-dub life - leading by example.

  Unless she wants to get into it.....
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  BLISSISIGNORANCE

  that is so true guys. thanks for reminding me that we DON"T need to be doing anything except be ourselves. i guess that's part of the residue from dub thinking , the need to get into someon's head...........and control them.

  i agree, we'll just have a nice time, it's been too long, and take things as they come along.

  i'll keep you posted and thanks again.

  cheers, bliss