Received a Letter from a JW Friend Who Doesn't Know I DA'd

by Cicatrix 4 Replies latest social relationships

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  Cicatrix

  So here I am, getting used to life on the outside and lo and behold I finally hear from a long lost friend.

  The problem is, I'm not really sure how to answer her letter. We were out of touch for a year, and in that time I DA'd myself. I'm not sure how to go about telling her. I can't decide if I want to try and explain to her my reasoning or just say "I'm wearing the big scarlet A and enjoying my life immensely, so have a good life and don't write back."Well, maybe not quite that:)

  She is a pioneer. Her sons have all left the JWs for various reasons. She had very little to do with them when they left, so I doubt she'll listen to a word I have to say.Her sons tried to explain to her why they left, and she didn't want to hear it. I know that others in my life have been more curious because I've chosen to remain silent.

  Has anyone had any experience with this?

  Thanks,

  Cicatrix
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  shamus

  Wow... that's a tough one...

  Hey, I say just write her a quick note, saying that you DA'd yourself, that you are not at all sad, and feel great. If she still wants to communicate, just write back to me, otherwise, nice knowing you, and I understand...

  Let her know if she ever wants to strike up the friendship again, you'll be there for her... no matter what.

  Kill them with kindness... don't let them win by thinking that you're mad...
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  Prisca

  Hmmm... why tell her so soon? Write back, let her know how happy you are and how great your life is, not giving any hints that you're da'd. She'll write back, saying how glad she is that you're being "blessed by Jehovah", and then drop the bombshell on her! lol....
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  JamesThomas

  Hey Cicatrix, A chance of planting a seed? My suggestion is to write her a very loving letter, void of anger and resentment. A letter which gently leads through one or two facts about the Org that motivated you to DA yourself. Write it in such a way that she is likely to read it through. Don't let her know you have left until the very end. Be caring and gentle. She sees you as a friend, and she is open some to hearing from you. Be a friend. This may be your one and only chance at oh so gentle persuasion. Good luck. JamesT
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  Nathan Natas

  Send her a OUIJA board.