Many of the women and men have not achieved the life title or status plus goals she/he/they may have tried to achieve or embark on.
For example: (A) Some women are only spiritual sisters. They may have worked on to become a wife, mother, mother-in-law, grandmother, etc. Due to the BORG's "do more" mandates, some have been oh so busy in putting the organization first as pioneers (auxiliary, regular, etc.--these type of titles) a great deal that time passes by to the point whereas they reach a "certain"age (BORG-wise: over 30 and beyond is tooooo old) and these women are not considered dating nor marrying age. Furthermore, the congs. want these women to be readily available for favors [a.k.a. sidekicks for certain domineering sisters and chauffers for ones in the cong that others (no doubt popular ones) won't lend a helpful hand in doing, etc.].
(B) Some men are only spiritual brothers. These may have worked on to become a husband, father, father-in-law, grandfather, etc., as well. Also, DITTO due to the BORG's "do more" mandates in their case, too. DITTO to their individual congs. wanting them to be readily available for favors. Also, especially ever since T. Morris' infamous talk harping on bros not to be considered marriage material if they are not MSs by age 23 (sooo ridunkulus)! DI
Suffice it to say, for some in the circumstances I stated above, their personal standing may change up, but it is still not right for this to be the case, if he or she really wants to become more than a spiritual brother or sister.
Outside of the BORG, men and women of all ages, race, backgrounds (financial, etc.) have experienced and are experiencing LIFE without any restrictions or unnatural mandates. I look at them [coworkers at my job, neighbors in my community, strangers in the street/places within in my travels (nationally and internationally), and including my family members/relatives who are non-Jdubs] who are living LIFE happily, naturally and normally.
And all because they are not in the BORG. . . . . .