My PIM? daughter us having an anniversary get to gether.. some family is never in, son DF. Tsome he invitees are well entrenched dubs so son will either be left out or there will be " committee," matters if he shows.
I downplay events, or plain lie about them to son. He is welcome in our home, and daughters. He will never " return" because of the jerks he had to deal with. I would quit save for the impact on wife