I figured that would get your attention.
But, yes, that's the topic in this final entry in the Watchtower Letters series. And, yeah, I was sort of saving it for last.
The year was 1979. My (now ex-)wife and I had just moved back to her old congregation, when the controversy arose. About a year earlier, the WT had relaxed its previous hard-line stand on oral sex between married couples. However, the elders in this congregation just hadn't bought it. Oral sex wasn't a matter of conscience, they said. It was still 100% wrong, but the elders just weren't being held responsible for policing such matters anymore. I disagreed. I had been a ministerial servant in my old congregation, thus brought with me a small amount of stature. Besides, they had to make a decision about re-appointing me as an MS in their congregation. They couldn't just tell me to shut up, so they told me to write to the Society. So, I did. The result is what you see here.
While this controversy was raging, I felt shabbily treated by the elders. On one occasion, when I was scheduled to say the prayer at the beginning of the meeting, an elder came up and asked me if I was "clean" enough to represent the congregation before Jehovah. I told him that my conscience was completely clear. He said OK, and I asked the prayer. In later times, such a question would have been enough to get me to walk out of the Kingdom Hall, but not yet at that point.
The outcome of it all was that I felt so disgusted by the attitudes of the elders in this congregation that I told them I was not willing to serve as a ministerial servant there. I never held an appointed position in the organization again.
I find it interesting that this letter seems to say that oral sex between married persons would be acceptable as foreplay. This seems contrary to other statements made by the WTS, specifically in a letter reproduced on page 51 of the 4th edition of Crisis of Conscience, by Raymond Franz. That letter, written in 1976, states, "If any of you brothers as elders have been advising individuals that oral sex would be permissible as foreplay prior to having actual sex relations, then such advice was not correct." Apparently, this was part of the change made in the teaching in 1978, but that part of the change was never mentioned in the publications.
Anyway, here you go. Enjoy: