Haven't come by in a while. I've been so busy. I missed all of you. I need some thoughts and opinions, if you don't mind.
Recently I got married to a wonderful man I have known for about 4 years. We just went to the justice of the peace. Nice and simple. But we wanted to have a celebration with our friends and family. So on the 3rd of May we will hold a reception. Here comes my mom.
She has never met my husband. She has never asked to. I have never offered. She was against my divorce from my first husband. When we spoke, she never asked who I was seeing or anything, for that matter. I didn't care if she ever met him. He is a staunch athiest. She a staunch JW. Oh, the fireworks I see in my future.
I want to send my mom an invitation to my reception. She is my mother. I love her. I would like her there with me. The problem: I have 3 sisters. All 3 have been baptised as JW's and disfellowshiped. One went back. But all three will be there. I was never baptised. That is why my mother feels she can talk to me. Anyway, the one that went back to the JW's talks to all the sisters for the most part. She was my maid of honor when I got married and she threw me a shower. She invited mom to the shower, but because one of the disfellowshipped sisters was going to be there, she wasn't going to eat. So the sister in the "truf" told mom she couldn't come.
I wanted to carry on that theme. I realize it is probably petty but I think mom aught to know how I feel about it.
Here is my rough draft. Other than me being petty, I would appreciate your opinions on this letter.
I would like to start by saying that I love you and Dad very much. This invitation is my way of saying that I wish you could attend our gathering.
K* told me of your stand against Sh*, and there is no reason to think that you would not take the same stand against L*. Since they will both be sharing this special moment with me and my husband, I see there is a problem. I cannot allow you to disrespect them in such a way and therfore ask that you not plan on attending.
If you can find it in your heart to treat all of your children with respect and love, you are very welcome to attend. Dinner will be served at 4:30p. Bring an appetite.
I hope I'm way off base here mom. Nothing would please me more than to have my family around me on my special day. I would love for you to meet J* (my husband) and his family. They are a wonderful group of people. His mother and I made the invitation you hold in your hand. We have worked very hard, side by side, to bring this day to reality. I will not risk any conflict on that day. I won't allow shunning, and the pain it causes, to be apart of it.
This is all I have so far. I'm sorry this is so long.
Thanks for your honest opinions.