SPIMI Friend Asked Me For The Name Of My (FORMER) Congregation

by HiddlesWife 7 Replies latest jw friends

  • HiddlesWife
    HiddlesWife

    A Present-SPIMI friend texted me to ask me the name of my congregation--which is my former and last one that I left right after becoming COMPLETELY/PRESENTLY POMO. She was a longtime buddy, who was PIMQ-PIMO-PPIMI-On-Occasion for many decades. Then shortly before the pandemic, she was dating a brother who was reaching out to become an MS [mind you, this guy was a MIC-HANDLER for several decades as well--until an older brother (who was a close friend of his uncle--who converted him into the cultporation years ago--encouraged him to the point of harrassing him to move up The WT Corporate Ladder🙄😤]. At any rate, we would always communicate by phone and text message at least 4 times annually [she moved to another city within my state of NY, not too long ago]. Lately, I haven't heard from her since January. Then lo and behold, her text appeared saying: "Hey, what's your congregation name & are you there?!". I was quite shocked, surprised, in that I told her on other occasions the name and texted it to her approximately 2x in the past. I figured that she would check her past messages for the answer, but something else is urging me to think otherwise regarding the REAL reason why she would inquire ⬇

    Ever since WT has established the program for this year's RCs, they have most likely INFLUENCED the members who are indoctrinated to the hilt to become SUSPICIOUS of other members who are not ACTIVE in this organization. The leadership wants the membership to also SIDE-EYE other members who are NOT STEPFORDS and NOT OBEYING the rhetoric heard on the daily or the weekly. This is what I'm deducing/deciphering the primary reason why she is asking.

    To that end--and I don't mean to make this thread LONG-WINDED--what do you think I should do in this case? Or would any of you do in this situation? [I'm sure the answer would be simple, but just curious for a suggestion or two.]

  • HereIam60
    HereIam60

    Do you want to remain in occasional contact with her? If so you could answer what she asked, then see how she responds. If you dont like the reply you don't need to communicate further....but you really don't need to respond to it at all. ( There has always been a mixed message within the congregations 'Have love for the whole association of brothers...Love one another intensely from the heart....But also be on guard against "bad associations"... even among the brothers and sisters!)

  • HiddlesWife
    HiddlesWife

    @HereIam60âž¡ Thank you for your answer to my question. In fact, that is a very good idea. I think I will give that a try and see what her response will be.

  • DesirousOfChange
    DesirousOfChange

    If there have been Cong closings and "shuffling" as there has been here, you could say "I live in the XXX Cong territory since the (changes). But it does sounds like she might want to "inquire about you" at whatever Cong you claim to be with.

    If you do reply, be sure to tell he how great everything is going for you. Life couldn't be better!

    The greatest revenge is living a happy & successful life!

  • Balaamsass2
    Balaamsass2

    Strange question to ask unless someone wants to contact your old elders to report you as an apostate.

  • NotFormer
    NotFormer

    Balaamsass2 has the same gut feeling as do I. I don't know how effective it would be, but complete radio silence might be the best strategy. But I have no personal experience of navigating the WT minefield, so I don't know if that is even good advice.

    I would expect that the less you say and the less they know, the harder it would be to convene a JC against you.

  • LongHairGal
    LongHairGal

    HIDDLESWIFE:

    I could be wrong, but the question sounds suspiciously like somebody wants to make a phone call about you. Some person might want to make brownie points by being a tattletale.. Little rats.

    Garbage like this reminds me of how glad I am to be Out of the JWs.

    We all know how the game is played in that nonsensical place.. You sound like you are not really ‘Out’ but on the ‘fringes’.. Do you want aggravation and drama in your life? If not, I would do what others have suggested and say very little and/or go radio silent.

    I am totally out so I wouldn’t care what they said about me but everybody has to do what’s right for them.

  • Ron.W.
    Ron.W.

    I would perhaps ignore the question and carry on the relationship as if the question had never been asked.

    Then if she asks again in the future, you know your friend has some sort of agenda.

    If like myself you have never signed the contact form asking permission to store your personal details (around 2018??) I'm not sure what the congregation could do about you anyway?

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