You’re on the verge of a big wet one. After an evening of story swapping, uncontrollable laughter, wine sipping and handholding, the sparks are flying.
It's been a perfect first date, and as the night draws to a close, you begin to wonder how it will end. A sense of nervous excitement overtakes you. Perhaps it should end with a kiss, but how can you be sure?
When it comes to kissing, many experience angst and uncertainty. Especially for first kisses, when we’re not sure what we want or how our date will react.
As with most skills, practice makes perfect. Even so, a first kiss can be a tantalizing and unforgettable start to a beautiful relationship.
Kiss me now
A woman sends "kiss me now" messages in a variety of ways.
Staring into his eyes with a subtle look of longing.
Moving in close, touching her date on the shoulder or arm, wetting her lips, and sighing in a slightly suggestive manner.
Lightly running her finger across his lower lip while smiling softly.
Staring at his lips as the two of them move closer till only inches apart.
In order for these messages to work, a woman must flirt, letting the man know his advances are desired and assure him that the interest is mutual. And men must pay attention to the subtleties of communication and slowly test the romantic waters.
Most men can recall at least one kissing disaster. Some have gotten the "head turn" only milliseconds before a kiss intended for a woman’s lips ends up awkwardly planted on her cheek. Others may have watched a look of disgust cross a woman's face as they puckered up.
Because men face the greatest risk of rejection when it comes to kissing, they often prefer not to kiss a woman unless they are certain she wants to be kissed.
Men often report receiving mixed messages, or an inability to decipher a woman's clues. Many prefer that a woman ask to be kissed as way of avoiding potential embarrassment.
And many women are more than willing to take the initiative. Some believe if they don't, they may never be kissed at all.
Eyes opened or closed? Slip her the tongue, or keep it simple? And what to do with the rest of the body when lips lock? Surprisingly, most men and women agree on the following kissing etiquette:
No tongue on a first kiss. Too much too soon and the sexy subtleties fall by the wayside.
Eyes open for those long, lingering gazes that lead up to a kiss but closed when you get too close for visual comfort.
Kiss with more than your lips, when appropriate. Touch; let your body be part of the kiss. Run your fingers through his hair. Pull her closer to you. Embrace each other.
Communicate, especially when kissing problems occur. Do so in a positive, non-judgmental manner. Tell each other what you like. Better yet, show each other.
Be a great kisser
You can't think your way through a great kiss. Instead, simply allow yourself to experience it. The best kissers are those willing and open to possibilities.
Relax, let go and get swept up in the sensation.
Convey with your lips what your heart is feeling.
Avoid predefined gender roles.
Assert, explore and submit indiscriminately.
Enjoy the charged moments before a first kiss.
Linger in the excitement and uncertainty.
Allow the desire to grow.
While you may be tempted to get the first kiss over with and move past your feelings of nervousness, don't do it. There is something very sexy and alive about this time. If the two of you should end up falling in love, you may never experience that first kiss feeling again. Bask in the beauty of it.
- stolen from somewhere off the internet by goo.