I have a good friend (also a former JW like me) who is getting married. None of her family (all JW) are coming to the wedding and she was wondering how she could explain this to her future in-laws - what good excuse could she use so it wouldn't look so bad.
As I was talking with her it hit me - why make any excuse at all? Is it our responsibility for their beliefs? Just say it like it is. My brother got married today (a JW) and all of my family was invited, even my non-JW teenage son, but I was not. When people ask me why I wasn't going I told them the truth - "I wasn't invited - They're Jehovah's Witnesses and they're shunning me because I don't want to be one". There - plain, simple, and true. If I had tried to make some excuse people would look at me and wonder what the real reason was - what terrible thing had I done that my family didn't want me around. Instead, I told the truth - much simpler.