I tried the fade thing for many years. I still had contact with family but it affected me psychologically in ways that were not healthy. My life went nowhere during this period.
Your honesty is refreshing to read about in a place where fading is pretty much the standard opinion that is offered.
As a new Christian, I exercised my Christian freedom and put up a Christmas tree before my parents came to visit one holiday season. I then asked them to show me where honoring Jesus' birthday was wrong when so many other bible characters did it. They just pretended the tree didn't even exist in my living room. I also asked my brother to show me where in the bible that active military duty was a disfellowshipping offence, especially when the very first example of a gentile believer in the bible was an active duty Roman military officer. In recent years I have challenged them to show me even ONE new testament scripture that shows how you can get your sins forgiven outside of the new covenant.
I was 40 years old at the time, divorced; my grown son wouldn't talk to me & had serious addiction issues and I drank too much. I put my faith in Jesus and utterly torched the Watchtower to the ground in front of my family. It was a rush for sure. But, then the task of walking with Jesus began.
Tens years later, I can say that Jesus is faithful, even when we are not at times. I remarried, have two more sons, 8 & 10 year boys who I baptized along with my grown son Spring of last year. My oldest is getting married in December to a young lady who works as an assistant to the pastoral staff at a church. She has had her own struggles coming to Christ. They seem perfect for each other. My oldest son and I are in a successful business together, although live in different cities.
God is good. The Watchtower thrives in darkness and secrecy. Like roaches, when you turn the lights on they run.
My advice is simple, torch the lying whore of a religion the Watchtower is down in front of your loved ones, and walk with Jesus. He'll take you places you've only dreamed about.