I need some info and advise

by sunshineToo 6 Replies latest jw friends

  • sunshineToo

    Does anyone know more about YWAM (Youth With A Mission)? I've checked their website. They seemed to be some sort of Christian group. Is this another Benni Hin-like? I have a brother-in-law who belongs to this group. He and his wife trevels a lot even though they cannot really afford it. We just got a their news letter (he and his wife write a newsletter once a year) saying that they need $2500 for them to go to Denmark. My husband and I discussed it and we're going to send them (because that's his brother's family, yup, they are taking their kids, too) $300.

    I really don't agree with their decision that because they got a "calling" and this is what they want, other people have to support them. They have two little kids; the older one is ready for kindergarten. They don't have rich family background rather their parents need support. His (my husband's) mom told my husband that they were starving! So we sent $700 to his parents. At the same time we sent $300 to his brother as a part of holiday gifts. We also sent other things, too. I had my husband stop the monthly support since last October because we are in financially difficult situation; we have a huge debt. For holidays and birthdays, we've been sending money with other gifts. I really think this should be enough. We are renting, and they have( own) a house.

    Just before we got married, my husband and I had a heated discussion on this. I think this is the only problem between us. I don't mind to help them out if they are really in trouble making ends meet. But to go to overseas and to pay their mortgage? I don't think so.

  • Silverleaf

    Hi SunshineToo,

    I don't know anything about the group, but as far as sending money so your BIL and his family can travel, I wouldn't. I'd tell them enjoy the trip, drop a postcard if they can, and give a call when they get back, but I wouldn't send them a dime. It's great to help people who really need it, but when it comes to giving your money to other people, I think you have every right to be choosy. If your DH insists, I'd show him the bills you've got and ask him who will send you money to pay THEM?



  • SheilaM

    Your husband is enabling his family, they need to take care of themselves and their children need a more stable life. His parents may need $ but I think you should look after yourselves first, like buying your OWN home.

  • Shutterbug

    I think everyone should be able to take any trip--------they can afford, after working for the money. To put yourselves in a financial strain so they can travel is not the most intelligent move you can make. Just my opinion. Bug

  • david_10

    Hello sunshineToo. Along with everyone else, I think that you're getting suckered. Your generous spirit is very commendable, but based on the information that you have provided and having some knowledge of human nature, I really don't think that they appreciate it. If I were you, I don't think that I would even send money for birthdays and holidays-----------I think that they're just using you. A real nice card with a heartfelt message would be very nice. If you stop sending money, though, they probably won't like you anymore. But that's OK------if the only reason that they like you is because you give them money, then you don't want them anyway. Right?

    I apologize if I have stepped outside the bounds of decorum.


    PS........did you get my email?

  • hooberus

    I went on an enjoyable 3 week mission trip with YWAM in 1995. My cousin also was an assistant director at one of their campuses. The theology of the group is basically protestant non-denominational. Missionaries are required to raise their own support. It is scriptural for Christian missionaries to be paid. Many are supported by Churchs. If you are not a Christian then you should not feel obligated to send funds. They should still like you even if you don't send them money.

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