Lets assume that some time has now gone by since you made that final decision to stop associating with JW’s. You are now your own person, the worlds your oyster, let the good times roll!
Still there seems to be a hole in your life, an emotional gap as it were, a feeling of loss that borders on depression.
What’s happening, of course, is that despite your decision to bale out of WT ways, the old patterns of thinking are still hanging in there and influencing your life. In short, you may well find that you’ve lost your friends only to find that JW imprinting is making you think as if you were still a JW. Now you've got all the negs and the few pitiful positives have been let go. Not good!
Maybe it’s good to see a very condensed version of what therapists and psychologists generally agree as being the three key aspects that profoundly influence our state of mind:
1. The way we see ourselves.
2. The way that we regard the world in which we live.
3. The way that we see our future.
How do we see ourselves? As someone only deserving of death, someone so wicked that the son of God was the only sacrifice that a vengeful and critical god would accept? Or do you see yourself as some one who has every right to be here, someone who is as good as it pleases them to be?
What about the world in which we live? If you hate everything about it a la JW’s (this wicked old world, this evil system etc etc) then how will you ever be happy? Or do you think that most people are kind and helpful given the opportunity?
Do you believe that the future is worthless unless you are assured that everything including our lives and loved ones will last forever? Or are you satisfied with getting the best from whatever cards life has dealt to you?
There’s a lot more to leaving the JW’s than whether our friends and family will still want us or not, I suspect that many ex’s find that they have only just put one foot on the road to emotional maturity when they finally make that decision to leave.
But isn’t it a great journey to be on! - See: http://trochim.human.cornell.edu/gallery/young/emotion.htm