I was raised as a JW. My mind was formed by, and inexorably conformed to, WTS doctrine. I lived 38 (baptized) years in that mindset: right/wrong, prove this/disprove that, old light/new light.
Several times over the last 25 years I really thought I'd broken free...now I was a new man, brave, open, speak my mind and help change the world. Study the Bible ever more keenly, make deep comments at the Watchtower Study, share with the elders, write to the Society, discuss my concerns with circuit overseers. To no avail; I was still unhappy, either in love or in life.
Now, simply, I learn each day, I share each day, I go to bed each day with peace in my heart...knowing that I've lived this one day as best I could...no explanations required to God or anybody else.
Bottom line: my own peace is no more and no less than...my OWN! Nobody else gives me that peace (not even Katie ). I give it to myself.
And this is a choice that any of us can make.