I am often confused by many of the double standards jdubs employ. They're always worried about how other jdubs view their actions. Many of them say they won't do "such and such" because it would offend their god jehovah. In reality, it is the watchtower's "man made rules" that the "rank and file" fear. These double standards, I believe have been caused by watchtower heavy yoke.
Let's take my parents for example. My parents treat me like I'm in limbo, I'm both alive and dead to them. For example my parents who would not attend my civil wedding, because I'm d'fd, will be more than happy to come over and spend all day to help me and family move to our new home. They won't go to my civil wedding, but they came to the hospital when my two children were born. They won't come over and eat a meal with me, but they will bring veggies from the garden. When things have been tough they've given us food to eat, and money to pay some of our bills. In the past when they have came over to visit their grandchildren. My wife makes them pie and coffee which they love, but when we ask them to come over for a meal they say, "no, we don't want to offend jehovah." I know if the watchtower dropped the whole disfellowshiping thing my parents would immediatly treat me like their other children. It is not their god "jehovah" they worry about offending, it is their god the "watchtower".
I have no interest in changing my parents viewpiont about the watchtower. I think if they found that the jdubs were full of it, they would both lose their damn minds. I would just like to be treated with respect as a son and a human being.
Down With The Watchtower