Ask questions. Leading questions that force her to arrive at the conclusion. It will still trouble her. CD will still kick in, but she will see that she cannot answer many things, even just to herself. This keeps you from being the troublemaker.
When I was first struggling with TTATT, I was discussing many things with my also born-in wife and I was earnestly asking her the questions that I was mulling over in my mind. Questions where the "right" answer was clearly "NOT right". It helped her awaken too.
Baby steps,
Good luck,
Doc