confrontation = satisfaction?

happysunshine

Is it possible to get any real satisfaction from confronting family about their WT beliefs?

Shutterbug

I don't think so. I avoid conforntation, but remain ready in case they confront me. Bug

Sure there is... especially when they see the errors of the Borg and decide to make changes in their beliefs. I confronted my family and since then they have left the dubs. I am definately glad I did!

happysunshine

pr capone: How did you confront them? How long did it take to change?

Elsewhere

I did and found it to be liberating.

When I left the organization, the shunning policy left me with no recourse. They were able to sit there and say all sorts of horrible things about me, but I was not able to say anything because everyone was shunning me.

When I confronted my family, it was about five years after I left the organization... all the while I was getting more and more angry because I could not tell them my point of view.

When I finally was able to confront them, it was a devastating emotional event. I slammed my family, one person after the next. I would corner them on a JW issue and basically maul them until they had no "JW" defenses left. I would leave them in silence... then I would move on to the next topic and do it all over again.

After it was all over, I was a mess for several weeks... but now I feel like I can finally walk away from them. I didn't want to loose my family, but they left me no choice. I reached out to them for almost five years, but they stood their ground on the shunning. I guess that my confronting them was my way of saying: "F*ck You @sshole!!! If you want it that way, then so be it!"

The irony of the situation is that I would not have become so opposed to the organization was it not for the shunning. The shunning is what made me so angry; the shunning is what makes me want to cause as much damage to the organization as possible. (Please dont think this means I take the molestation problem, UN, false prophecies, manipulation, and other issues lightly)

I can honestly say that my mother is a B*tch and my Father is an @sshole.

F*ck'em

pr_capone

Happy - I actually confronted them quite a few times before I even left the dubs. I would bring up things that we had all noticed within the organization that were questionable and made them think about it. While I was still in they just thought of it as me venting. Little did they know that I was actually trying to plant the seeds of doubt.

After I decided to leave the confronations came to me more often that I brought it to them. They usually turned into screaming matches but I kept focusing on the things that they had noticed that were wrong within the organization. I would bring up different things such as the molestation within the troof and how elders were constantly covering up for their buddies and their kids. Just brought up alot of points that they couldnt really contend.

They shunned me ( I am not df'd nor da'd) for over a year, at one point they disowned me. After seeing how resolved at staying away from the borg did they begin to soften. Also the fact that I went to the emergency room with a severe nosebleed where I lost over 2 pints of blood did much to help. It took 1 1/2 years for me to finally get them out but I did. We dont have a relationship anymore because of the treatment I recieved but as least they are out and we can work on re-building the trust.

If you want to talk in private you can email me at [email protected]

Eric

joannadandy

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.aspx?id=44838&site=3

Not at first it didn't...but I got some amazing results aftwards. I had no idea my parents felt that way about me...and it never would have gotten to that point had I not finally told them how I felt. In my case I lucked out. And so far things are good. We shall see tho...it didn't change their stance on the society...I don't think...but who knows. In any case I feel better letting them know how I feel, and I feel SO MUCH better, knowing how they feel about me...

Introspection

If confrontation is what you want, then yes. My guess is most people just want to be heard, but a confrontation doesn't always mean you'll be heard. You can also just lay all your cards on the table and not do it in a confrontational manner, it all depends on what you want and what that depends upon.

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