I have found that therapists can cause harm ...often making things worse....
Has anyone ever found this to be true AND....what makes for a good therapists?????????????
Thank you............
Cyn
Therapists
by Cyn 4 Replies latest watchtower medical
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blondie
I have found that therapists can cause harm ...often making things worse....
Well, Cyn, that is true of any health professional. There are qualified ones and unqualified ones.
Is this is regard to religious background? It depends on how you feel. If you have left the Watchtower but retain a belief in God and the Bible, you need to seek out a therapist that respects that. If you no longer have a spiritual side and don't want that integrated into your therapy, you have to find a therapist that will respect that.
This person is working for you, you or your insurance are paying them. You have every right to interview them to see if you are a good match. Ask for referrals from your GP who usually knows you fairly well. Check mental health groups in your area and see what recommendations they have. These groups usually have support groups as well, for those with bipolar, schizophrenic, OCD, etc.
Hope this helps.
Blondie
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MegaDude
A good therapist, in my opinion, is someone who helps you....
Understand why you are there in the first place....
How to put it behind you....
and get where you want to go.
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Debz
Theapists use a range of `theories` to work from and usually tailor them individually! The `usefulness` of therapists is often attributed to what theory they structure their work practice on...Some can specialise in a particular field ie addictions, relationship or families etc. The success of a particular therapist is due in part to the client assisting the process - although sometimes a `personality clash` may interfere with the process and a good therapist will be alert to that and offer another competent therapist. Psychological theories are comprehensive and vary as to the therapist own personal preference and what the client may need at the time - sometimes they may get it wrong! For the majority of the time the success in finding a good therapist is to find one that specialises in the issue you want to deal with and ALWAYS ensure they are registered with an association. For a more comprehensive case management approach to problem solving a social worker can also assist - they work from a wider range of theories that include, psychology, sociology and anthroplogical theories. Hope this helps.....
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Lady Lee
Cyn
You are so right to state that some therapists can be dangerous. Like most professions there are good ones and bad ones. Finding a good one can be a challenge and when a person is in the process of looking for therapy most of the time they are not in the best of shape to determine the quality of what they are getting. A few years ago I wrote some suggestions. I'm sure others might be able to add some more info. Hope this helps
Getting Therapy
Finding good therapy and support as you heal is important and can require effort on your part to find someone you can feel comfortable with, safe and with whom you can work.
You will be talking about things that are highly personal and perhaps you have never told some of these things to anyone before. Having your trust violated and betrayed in the past can make it difficult to try to trust anyone again. You may have told people before only to find it thrown back at you or have found out that your secrets have been told to others. Or you made have been made fun of or your experiences minimized.
Finding help to deal with your abuse experiences is important to your healing. Building a good support system is essential to help you through the process. A good support network can include a lot of different elements. Supportive friends and family, perhaps a self-help group or group counseling and individual counseling can provide the needed help when things get difficult. Reading information about the type of abuse you have experienced as well as information on the recovery process will give you an idea of what to expect and make the process less overwhelming and scary.
A lot of people are intimidated by therapists. Usually we go see a therapist when we are feeling most vulnerable. That makes it difficult to feel like an equal when meeting prospective therapists. The reality is that you are hiring somebody to do a job for you. You want somebody who is qualified, knowledgeable and understanding. You also need somebody who will see the therapeutic relationship as a partnership. You do not give up your rights to make decisions for your life. The therapist is a guide not a dictator (those are the abusive ones). Together you work as a team trying to deal with the various problems and issues that have been created as a result of the abuse.
You need to interview this person to whom you are going to tell your innermost secrets to. Some therapists hate this. They think that since they have the education, they are the best judge of what you need. If you meet one like this RUN . . . FAST. A good sense of humor helps too, since there is so much pain. A little humor can help relieve the tension a lot of the time. Ever notice how when you're really nervous you start laughing inappropriately?
Another really important thing to know about is how much does this person understand about abuse issues. Some people (therapists) included blame the victim, or think you should keep the family together no matter what. Some therapists think they know what's wrong with you and start telling you how to run your life or decide for you what kind of abuse you've been through. Some want to get everybody on pills to hide the problems. While there might be situations where medication is necessary, it should never replace good solid counseling.
Some therapists are survivors themselves. This can be an excellent choice of therapist IF the person has dealt with their own issues. If they haven't then it is very likely they won't be able to help you. But a therapist/survivor who has done their own healing work, can understand the process in a way that many others cannot. This does not mean that a person who has not been abused cannot be a good therapist. Many are. They just bring different things into the process. Either way, it can be helpful. Some therapists won't disclose their personal history. Then it depends on your comfort level about knowing or not knowing. If it becomes an issue then perhaps you need to find somebody else.
Therapy is a place where you get to practice new skills for dealing with problems and situations. You should be able to tell a good therapist when you are uncomfortable with something that is happening in the therapeutic relationship. Some therapists will always place the blame on the client. This is abuse. Nobody is always right, therapists included. If you are feeling uncomfortable, you need to talk about it. If the therapist does put the blame on you (You misunderstood; That's not what happened; That's only your past talking) leave. This is your opportunity to take back your power. Anybody who refuses to admit they make mistakes is a potential abuser (emotionally) and that's what you're there to learn to change -- how to take care of yourself and how to get out of abusive relationships.
You might also want to ask how much experience they have in dealing with abuse issues, how long they have been working and how long they have been working with the kind of abuse you have experienced? What books have they read? Do they recommend reading, journaling, art therapy, self-help groups? Do they do family or couple counseling when needed? What are their fees, cancellation rules, contact outside of office hours? Can you contact them in an emergency? How?
What is important here is that you both understand how you will work together. It is something you negotiate together. Problems get discussed. Slowly you learn that you have a voice in the therapeutic relationship. After that you go out into the world and use what you have learned on relationships in your life. Good Luck and take good care of yourself.
Copyright 1999: Lee Marsh