Friendships

by Xandria 6 Replies latest jw experiences

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  Xandria

  What I have learned about some friendships.

  People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
  When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

  When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

  When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

  LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (any way); and but what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

  Just a personal experience of mine. Some people get a mind set of terror over friendships. Due to the fear of betrayal. What are your best friendships and what would you change if you could ( due to lost friendships).

  Xandria

  Edited by - xandria on 6 October 2002 23:17:50

  Edited by - xandria on 6 October 2002 23:19:43
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  gumby

  That was sweet Xandria. You put a lot of thought into that.

  " What are your best friendships and what would you change if you could ( due to lost friendships)".

  My best friendships were mostly dubs.....and as you say.....they are lost.

  I usually only have a few close ones...but many other friends. Some of my friends have pulled some real boners and I don't hang with them anymore.....and miss them. Those I do have...I am very close to.

  Thanks for the time you took to write this.
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  ugg

  i don't have any real friendships except for some relatives....whom i dearly love...
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  Beck_Melbourne

  Interesting post Xandria

  I love the friends that I have...and I don't give a rats bum for the friends that I have lost. It doesn'tconcern me what the reason is why a friend is lost to me....I don't have time to waste chasing their tails and saying 'oh did I do something wrong?' or 'why don't you talk to me anymore?' or 'are you ignoring me??' All I can say is, who cares! Is that too harsh??

  Like you, I have had friendships that have come and are gone again....some have ended on pleasant terms...some have ended with a major misunderstanding and mean words. Whatever the case, life goes on...who needs friends that don't need you!! Find some new friends

  ~Beck~
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  Xandria

  Good thoughts all of you. I hope the post provoked thought. An it did.

  Xandria
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  Beck_Melbourne

  Xandria

  To be honest with you, your post certainly did make me think long and hard about friendships. For some strange reason I was relating your post on friendship to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs...don't ask me why or how I made the association, but I found myself reading up on Maslow and other pscyhologists trying to find what I was looking for...all because of your post.

  I found what I was looking for btw...which inspired my post above. Thanks for this thread.

  ~Beck~
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  wonderwoman77

  I totally agree with you. I have always said that the people that come in and out of our life do so because our soul needs their soul and vice versa. You are right, it may be we need them for a reason, a season or lifetime. Very well put. I appreciate your thoughts.