I can only speak from my own experience with my mom. She totally shunned me for twelve years of my life and hers, because of stubborness mostly. She exceeded the requirements, as I was not df'd, but had simply just walked away and sent letters. No announcement was made. Maybe to prove a point, who knows. I have even thought that perhaps because I "left", it was in affect making the statement that her decision to bring the JW's into our lives was wrong and damaging. She could not face that and so she had to punnish me. At any rate, suddenly, in 1992, I received a call from my father saying that he AND MY MOM were taking a trip up north and wanted to visit me. Wow! Totally out of the blue she was back in my life again. I was grateful for that. We have maintained communication ever since. She has her opinions of me, and thinks I'm doomed to die, and I have my opinions of her, a robot. We agree to disagree, and just don't confront each other.
These days, I am satisfied just to be able to speak to her on the phone about the weather, about her menus for means, about her doctor visits, etc. Just simple, meaningless crap. She doesn't want to hear about my epiphany, nor about any type of spiritual enlightenment. She is extremely closeminded and totally borg. She won't allow me to introduce any of the subjects you mentioned. She is 78 years old, and her life is ebbing away.......
My sister has confronted her regarding the UN deal and the SilentLambs, but to no avail. Mom says her elders tell her all she needs to know and she believes them totally.
Usually, if a JW doubts, they then feel so much guilt that they have to "try harder". They suppress their instinctive curiosities and feel comfortable putting all their trust in "man". The blind leading the blind comes to mind here.
I really don't believe that a person can set out to save someone else. The best we can do is to be happy and show love. Those being deceived have to come to the point of making inquiries and questioning, so that valid points can be made; otherwise, the more you push and attack, the more they pull into the safety of the organization. They live in denial.
My heart goes out to all of my friends here who have family and friends still in. We cannot be responsible for the outcome. It is their choice.
Love and Light,