I am in a simular situation to yours. Well not exactly.
Hey, this is also my first post after lurking here for awhile so hello all :)
I love a young JW girl. Not in the way that you love your guy but as a little sister or even a daughter. I am old enough to be her dad and many times she has told me she wished I was.
You have no idea how many times this has brought tears to my eyes.
My wife and I have offered her a place to live a long way from where she is now. She wants to be away from where she is now so badly. Ours is a long distance relationship. Yes I have huge phone bills.
Her mothers reaction to the idea was not exactly friendly ( she pretty much went nuts ) but my wife has something in common with her mother and they have started talking on the phone. Thats a pretty big step.
This girl is so much fun. We never had any children but if we had I would have wanted them to be just like her ( except for the dub thing of course ).
She can keep me up all night either on the phone or in a chat box. Sometimes we watch tv while were on the phone for half the night. She loves to watch stuff she isnt allowed to see.
She has so many problems that are directly related to her religion. No self esteem, she says no guys will ever want her, her life sucks, it sucks to be me and so on. She has even told me she is such a mess that why would I even bother with her. God, I love her thats why.
I can talk to her about anything but the few times she has talked about her religion has freaked me out.
She told me at conventions she gets yelled at by people with bullhorns. I asked her what they were saying but she wasn't sure. When I ask who they are she just says they are apostates and are from the religion that she has no part in. I asked her what religion and she says "the pagan religion"
She quickly changes the subject. This stuff really scares her. I mean to the point of not being able to even talk, she is so scared of the freaking Watchtower.
Anytime I bring up meetings she changes the subject. I know when she has meetings and when her family studys are but when it's time for them she just says she will be gone for awhile. It's like she is almost trying to hide it from me. When she went to the memorial she said she was going to be gone for awhile and could she call when she got home. I said "so your going to the memorial ?" She asked me how I knew about it ? She said "did I tell you ?" I told her I read a lot. She said "you read what , where ? Please don't read anything except our official site, anything else will only confuse you, they are all apostate sites." She says every site that has anything to do with JW's on the internet is apostate, every site except our official site. She is so paranoid about everything.
She even says that others pose as JW's and go door to door passing out counterfeit Watchtowers.
She says everyone you meet online that says they are JW is an imposter.
Are these people freaking out or what ? Were Talkin paranoid taken to the extreme.
She misses a lot of meetings. She says she is sick, but as soon as her parents leave she is on the phone with me :)
She is such a shy girl and is 18 years old. She hasn't been baptised but has been a JW since she was three years old.
She also told me that she will never have to do any of the "talks" or speak at any meetings. Maybe someone here could tell me why she doesn't have to do any talks. I read about talks all the time. She says she will never have to participate. She says her parents can do them but she never will. I'm not sure what she means. Maybe i'm confused about the talks.
My friend is a prime example of a double life. This girl wants to have so much fun and she does late at night after her parents are in bed. This is when I get most of the phone calls :)
Her and her mother have burned books in the past, she is freaked out by smurfs and so on. It makes me sick to see what this religion has done to such a sweet girl.
My friend is also a Silent Lamb. She has so much pain in her life from this so called religion.
It has screwed her up forever.
You are up against something even more powerfull than love but you never know what might happen. I wish you the best with your guy but I know how much heartache you will and have already gone thru.
Do you know what I was told about JW's when I was growing up ?
" stay away from them, they belong to a wierd cult and are sick people "
That statement from my parents was so wrong, but so true.
This cult can really mess a person up good.