by RenMan 5 Replies latest jw friends
Hello,
I am researching a report for an interpersonel communication class. I would appreciate any input on the following questions:
How have JW communication styles effected your interpersonal communication styles with non-JW's.
Were you raised as a JW?
How does's your use of specific language/linguistic styles identify you as a JW?
Thanks!
For the record I am a baptized JW, born and raised.
RenMan,
I think you could answer the questions very well on your own without any help. First of all, in dealing with Non-JW': You have consumant training in the art of talking to "worldly people". You know how to overcome objections. You know the techniques of persuasion. You know how to use "tact", in other words, how to lie if you have to, so what else can we tell you?
Your third question about commuication patterns that identify you as a Witness. You know as well as I do, that there are code words and ideas that you can use to determine if someone else is a Witness, used to be a Witness or an outsider pretending to be a Witness. (I ran into one of those once.)
Your second question is the easiest. Yes I was raised as a Witness. One you didn't ask. Am I still a Witness? No, and I was not disfellowshipped, but I have been inactive for 35 years.
its hard to pick out words that you probably use subconsciously all the time but you could pop over to the sci link where they have a glossary of their loaded words, start with *button* in the glossary and follow the links, I'm not advocating scientology (high control stuff)here I just find it interesting the way they actually put their words in a list for you and tell you how they work, perhaps you can then use them as a comparison in your work,
nelly
jw born,19 years in,16 years out
RenMan,
I was out driving yesterday - and got lost, I stopped and asked a stranger for directions, I started the conversation by saying " I'm sorry to bother you but...." Def. a line from my F.service days. (Never was a reg.pioneer)
I am now working on NOT using such stupid intros. I thought about it and realized I'd done it a few times this week....gotta stop....don't.....know if I can......Help!!
I def. feel apologetic, too much.
Sorry
Interesting questions.
How have JW communication styles effected your interpersonal communication styles with non-JW's.
Considering the fact that it was always an "us" vs "them" situation, I would say that there was a definite effect. While still active, the main impetus of any conversation was how to get in some snippet of "truth", some "seed that might take root". Since becoming inactive, it has become a long road of discovering normal conversational skills. You know, something that doesn't include gossip about someone in the congregation, discussion of where to attend the District Assembly and what you're planning to wear, or what wondrous things are contained in the latest Watchtower.
Were you raised as a JW?
yes
How does's your use of specific language/linguistic styles identify you as a JW?
Well, let's consider this as an example....How does a babboon's fiery red butt identify him to another babboon? The cult language is so ingrained and so unique that even after being inactive for sixteen years, I can instantly identify a JW from a few overheard snippets of conversation.
RHW
ROFLMAO!
oops that is not one of them huh?
wendy
