Where "live and let live" ends.

by D8TA 5 Replies latest jw friends

  • D8TA
    D8TA

    A question in a post and by an e-mail was sent to me regarding my "live and let live" life style that I attributed to myself, and something I live by.

    To clear that up, I take each person I come in contact on an individual bases.

    However, should such a person or organization come in to my area, punch my sister in the eye...then proceed to come to me and punch me in the eye. "Live and let live" pretty much goes out the window at that point. That's a situation of "direct attack", and I just don't turn my cheek with that.

    There are a few people on this board that I'm willing to discuss the situation that had happened to me this past Friday. Unfortunately, bringing out the "details" on this public board (which IS monitored), could compromise the legal action I am pursuing as of now against the "elder", his wife as well as a possible case against the WTBTS.

    Another "assumption" within the e-mail was; "You seem a person who has anger and rage."

    ::rolls eyes::

    I guess I have to attend the apostofest in August here in WA, so at least some people will actually "see and hear" the way I talk.

    Best definition: I have a monotone way of speaking, mired with sarcasm, sprinkled with pop-culture references and very "colorful". I use animiated facial expressions ala-Little Rascals (cross my eyes, funny faces, sticking my tongue out---err, that's other then flirting with people with my tongue guage...ahem). My hand gestures remain in a small local area. I never "raise" my voice.

    I guess after looking at my posts and getting my wifes opinion, it could come of as someone running around yelling in rage---like a chicken with their head cut off.

    Ah well, the limits of technology when it comes to message boards, can often portray a person in a light that is completely opposite from themselves in the "real life".

    The way I see it, in order to achieve victory over an adversary is to keep a cool, calm, and collect head. But to remain with a "firm" attitude, and keep eye contact. Anger and Rage is the spawn of fear.

    In my experience, keeping low clear voice, using direct language, and keeping eye contact goes farther then yelling and pounding one's chest.

    Even with my experience with the kids messing with the elderly couple at the park...I was contained. I used physical force in that situation, it was contained. A calm demeanor often yields an air of "seriousness" in a confrontation. It let's people know you are not "playing" around.

    So, I guess I throw this out there for those wondering about these issues.

    D8TA

  • Dutchie
    Dutchie

    Oh my, fisticuffs? Actual blows were thrown around? Goodness. I am sure you were provoked. You are a brave man. I would have cried and run away!

  • Reborn2002
    Reborn2002

    My heart goes out to you D8TA.

    Having read the majority of your posts since you joined this site, I must say I respect you as a person possessing intelligence and reason.

    Not to mention, you are a StarWars and Mace Windu fan like me.

    I know what it is like to feel pain and anger because of actions taken by the WTBTS either directly or indirectly which divide families and slander names.

    The other post concerning you putting that snobby little brat in his place for harassing an elderly couple also touched me.. because you remind me of me.

    If you ever need someone to talk to, my email is in my profile, and from there we could talk on the phone as well if you like.

    May the Force be with you my friend.

    - Jason

    JW Viewpoint on Discipline of Children
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    "Blows that wound cleanse away evil; strokes make clean the innermost parts." WT 1/15/1954 pgs. 54-62

  • cellomould
    cellomould

    D8TA,

    You've got a good point about not "raising" your voice at your children. It suffices to pick them up and take them away from what ever they were doing if the situation is that serious.

    Most parents get frustrated because they don't understand that, sooner or later, you must teach your kids reasoning skills.

    cellomould

    "You're crying 'why am I the victim?' when the culprit is YOU" Stevie Wonder

  • D8TA
    D8TA
    punch my sister in the eye...then proceed to come to me and punch me in the eye.

    Ack...my bad...figuratively! figuratively!

    What this elder and his wife did, I would equal the attack to this type of of behavior.

    You've got a good point about not "raising" your voice at your children.
    Umm, children? When? What? Where? Lol....no children here, legitimate or otherwise. But I wouldn't raise my voice with any child much less an adult.

    Oh my, I'm scanning my above post and trying to figure where you got the "children". If it's about the teenz, that was about a situation I post a month or so back. Group of thugs that were giving an elderly couple a bad time at the local waterfront park. Those weren't "my" kids. :)

    Children...hmmmm...(knock on wood! knock on wood!)

    D8TA

  • cellomould
    cellomould

    ...oh I see, D8TA...it makes more sense now.

    I didn't think you were necessarily talking about your children but it seemed like you were talking about little kids. Dunno why.

    So you had to get a little physical, eh?

    Good for you.

    cellomould

    "You're crying 'why am I the victim?' when the culprit is YOU" Stevie Wonder

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