The wife and I found out today she is preggo! We aren't going to share the blessed news with family until the end of the first trimester later this year...if we can hold out and keep it a secret until then. But I don't know what to do with my JW fam.
Brief recap on me: Born-in JW. Faded away 15 years ago. Grandparents and my sisters are in. Got married 2 years ago to non-JW. I DA'd for my own sanity, but family doesn't know. Grandparents and 1 sister did not attend wedding (not held at church) because I got baptized and was marrying on non-JW. 1 sister went to wedding. Had other family (non-JWs) attend wedding. And a celebration it was! So since then, grandmother has sent wedding anniversary card with a little gift inside. Have seen grandparents once since wedding; very akward. Have seen sister who didn't attend wedding a couple times, was strained to say the least.
So we are preggo now and I don't know what to do. I know there will be a baby shower or three held by wife's family (they have a large close family; opposite of mine). I know I should be the better person and probably should invite grandmother and sister to the shower. But really...they couldn't go to my wedding but I know they'd go to this. Is it fair to my wife to invite them? We don't really want anything to do with my sister. They will never be allowed to leech JW teachings or be left alone with child. But at same time, I feel the familial obligation to invite. I know n-non-JW cousins got knocked up and grandma all excited about great-grandchildren. I don't really want to deny her that.
What are ya'll thoughts? Maybe it's too early to be thinking this out but my mind is running crazy with the happy news and stupid JW thoughts of do we invite pop-in. Sigh. Sorry for the ramble.