My mother-in-law, who has several children, leads a miserable existence because of being a witness. She stays in constant turmoil because usually at any given time one or more of her children is in a disfellowshipped state. None are spiritual giants, however all believe that the witnesses have the truth except one, my spouse. There is another child that is having doubts. I say children, but really all are over the age of 25 but in her mind they are children, therefore, she feels she can control their lives.
Recently her daughter said it would be nice to get together with her and not talk about any of the family problems and just have a nice discussion that is upbeat and positive. Her reply, "Just what do I have to be happy about?" Her life is so centered on her children that until ALL are living the JW life, she will not be happy.
I use to have a great relationship with her and we were able to talk about many different subjects, but now I avoid her because she is hell-bent on trying to save me. It is really sad because she has absolutely nothing in her life, except "Jehovah" and she is a miserable soul because she fears that most of her children are going to die at Armageddon because they are not pioneering or ministerial servants or elders. She lives in constant turmoil because of this.
She called us last week to let us know how disappointed she was that we did not attend the "special talk that was given around the world to all of Jehovah's people at the same time." My husband told her that he was sorry that it hurts her that we don't go, but that we can't live a lie. He continued that maybe someday we will have a change of heart (NOT) but that for now she is just going to have to accept things the way they are.
I wish there was some way to be around her without my spirituality being an issue. Does anyone have any ideas of how to shut her up without hurting her feelings?