I took this quote from another thread, because I thought it had universal appeal here:
Try putting some confidense in yourself. The desire to be loved by someone is great, but you should put more effort into YOU.Interesting.
This augers well with my mom's experience, who got sucked in to the hall only after years of abuse and battering, then left when the self-esteem and confidence levels rose...
It may sound bad, but cults often prey on the low-self esteem types and that's why people of sound mind spurn them thoroughly. Because the JWs measure up perfectly to the 21 characteristics of a cult listed recently, I firmly believe them now to be so.
Perhaps the one who TR wrote about is experiencing a bout of low-self esteem, and Satan is working overtime to draw her into a controlling group who will "show her Jehovah's way" of strict "righteousness" and "truth". This invariably appeals to such ones, because it replaces insecurities about self-worth with structure. In women, generally this is magnified because of traditional views on womens' value in societies.
Unfortunately, understanding proper humility is always confused with lowering one's own self esteem. Pride is often portrayed as evil, yet God Himself has proper pride. If you assume we were created in God's image, why then, as his creations, we glorify God every day by having pride in ourselves!!! For instance, that's why we have pride in our appearance, our careers, our good name, who we helped today. Otherwise, why get up in the morning?
The JWs have refined the art of persuading people that they don't even amount to dust, therefore the Society is correct in all things and must be trusted, lest you become "spritually weak". Going thru the motions to be men-pleasers is hardly the route to having a PERSONAL, (read: INDIVIDUAL) relationship with God and Christ. Yet, this is how many things in the organization are set up. Many aspects are numbers-based. Independent thinking is condemned quite firmly in WT literature. Yet, one would glorify God by USING one's brain, and TRAINING one's own conscience. This would be true Christian freedom, as all matters come under the province of self-discipline and good reasoning.