People who are only recent ex-dubs, or who are still attending the miserable meetings, how much have we heard over the past few years about the dangers of porn on the internet, how so many are falling into sexual sin (the WTS are repressed prudes if ever there were -).
Well, here's my story - In 1997 (my fourth year as a baptized dub) I got a computer with internet access. It didn't take me long to find the porn sites. It became very addictive to me. Of course, since I was trying to be a good JW, the shame I felt after a one-handed internet surfing episode was extreme. Which only seemed to make the problem worse. I fought an up and down battle with internet porn for the next few years, constantly going to the elders with my problem, even going so far as to take the modem out of my computer & giving it to an elder to hold on to for a while.
Back in October of 2001, I stopped going to meetings. I had become very disgusted with much of what I saw in the congs, and I was having some serious doubts as to whether this was "the truth". Lo and behold, guess what happened? I no longer have any inclination towards surfing for internet porn. The problem vanished when I quit going to meetings. The lifting of this burden is wonderful beyond what I can express.
My theory as to why I couldn't control my porn addiction as a dub, but as an ex-dub it has become a non-issue?
1. The endless emphasis on "fornicators and adulterers" seems only to increase sexual curiosity and appetite.
2. The constant pressure to conform to WT standards of behavior and conduct create unbearable stress for many in the congs, and porn is a great (but sick) outlet for relieving stress.
3. In the congs, women have precious little identity and individuality. The prettiest and most sensuous females in the congs are given way more attention than the more average or ugly ones. If you are an ugly female in "Jehovah's Organization" - forget it, you're dead weight. "We really appreciate all your effort and sacrifices sister uglypioneer. We know how much you long for companionship, just wait on Jehovah, and in time he will fulfill your desire". barf
Women in the borg are just skirts.
Just some thoughts.