Characteristics of a DF'ed.

by jerome 4 Replies latest jw experiences

  • jerome
    jerome

    I would like to know what you would expect from a Dfed person with these characteristics.

    (Things Which the indivisual is capable of.)

    1) Swearing alot (any and everyone who doesent have something that they need or that isnt in a higher position than they are like their boss);
    2) Does not back down from a confrontation;
    3) Does not express any discontent at and seems to find nothing wrong with and is willing to use violence to settle a disagreement;
    4) Still goes to meetings (because they still believe i the truth);
    5) Seems very unhappy with life (you get this impression because nothing about their daily life experience seems ever to be positive enough for them to make the people around them feel positive);
    6) Very hypocritical about WT teachings (Do as they say but not as they do);
    7) For the simplest of things, is able to get upset and say things which express the willing to use force;
    8) Has the usual attitude towards wordly 'people' i.e Makes negative generalizations about them;
    9) Can be spiteful when ready;
    10) Does not seem to be able to express their love for some reason or another;
    11) Is very capable of expressing dislike or hate for a person, and with little provakation;
    12) The nicest thing that they seem to be capable of saying is your dinner is ready come get it, and even then they must add some sarcastic remark or some ulitmatum - if you dont eat this and like it...
    13) Has the phoney age old practiced smile (Smile to your face but when your gone...);

    Have you ever met anyone like this before?

    What would you expect from someone like that? i.e Do you think that they could surprize you with some heart felt expression of emotion.
    After all they are human.

    More importantly what button do you think is best to push when confronting this person with a matter involving the truth about the truth? (A Watchtower Error)
    i.e I realize that when informing a person about a matter involving the WT the way that you do it is just as important as the way you say it. Bearing that in mind what buttons are likely o have an effect on such a person.

    Playing on their sympthy may be an example of pushing a button.

    (Not doing this in a negative way but just doding somthing that demonstrates to them that you want them to feel what you are going through.)

    But in my experience since the JW that I have come across dont seem to be able to express their positive emotions showing that they sympathize that button may not likely invoke the desired effect but might in fact present them with the oppertunity to make you feel even lower and worst than you are, and many dont seem to have a problem with taking advantage of this oppertunity.

    What say you?

    The Bible is a two edged sword wield it for evil and it you may get hurt.

  • jerome
    jerome

    No replys?

    p.s When can we edit?

  • flower
    flower

    im not sure i get what you are trying to say or ask. maybe no one else does either and thats why no replies.

    a person is a person whether they are df'd or not. why is that a qualification in your post? yes i've known people like that but not df'd people. although i'm sure there are also df'd people like that.

    there are also a lot of jw's like that or worse than that. i dont know how you approach anyone with the truth about the truth that doesnt want to hear it. we've all been through trying different techniques but it all depends on the person and if they are ready to hear it. no one way works for everyone. the best thing you can do for anyone is find out what their doubts are and work on them.

    flower

  • jerome
    jerome

    Sorry for being so incoherent during that post. When I read it even I got lost and i'm the person who wrote it.
    I would format it and add more body to the text to make it more understandable but I cant edit it.

    What I really wanted to know is if anyone has tried to talk to an ex Jehovahs Witness who still believes in the truth and posses charecter traits like mentioned above about a Watchtower related issue. (The issue obviously was not reflecting positively on the Watchtower)

    Even thought you did not completly understand where I was comming from you still managed to give sensible advise.

    Thanks... any more replys?

  • movin on
    movin on

    Flower pretty well says it all.

    for whatever their reasons, there are people who will growl: "It isn't light enough in here"; after you've just
    turned on 300watts of light, or scream "Why'd you throw that at me?" if you toss them a bar of gold. It seems
    your friend has that negative slant on life, and there's no concievable way that s/he will be open to hearing
    something negative about someplace s/he apparently so desperately wants to be.

    If you really feel it's important to provide some light, perhaps simply leaving something you've printed out
    someplace where s/he will "accidently" find it may do the job. Otherwise it would seem the best
    course in order to maintain peace is just drop the subject.

    Hope this helps.

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