An interesting twist on shunning - would they ever do this?

by therevealer 13 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

  • therevealer


    Making the needed changes in our lifestyle
    was not easy. I had stopped growing tobacco
    because doing so conflicts with Bible principles.
    (2 Corinthians 7:1; James 2:8) It took
    some time before we found acceptable employment
    that provided a steady income.
    Also, for many years after that, some of our
    relatives refused to visit us. We tried to treat
    them according to Bible principles by showing
    them love. Eventually, the barriers came
    down, and now our close relatives no longer
    shun us.

  • wha happened?
    wha happened?

    In very rare cases have I seen non JW's relatives shun, mostly it was because they got tired of getting preached to

  • Conan The Barbarian
    Conan The Barbarian

    All of our relatives will have nothing to do with us because of religion. This is no big loss by the way.

  • therevealer

    Thanks for the reply and ALSO what I thought was interesting is that they would include that in the article. These relatives were obviously upset that they "changed" their religion, yet they relented. Would the dubs ever do the same? I leave them and they will NEVER relent.

    Also I think the word shun simply comes from his mind set. Truth is the other relatives simply ignored them.

  • diamondiiz

    Since the guy was a Muslim converted to a JW, it's not surprising his family would shun him especially when talking about older Muslim generation. The irony is that if the guys kids left wts he would probably shun his kids until they returned to the wts.

  • therevealer

    my point exactly....

  • blondie

    *** w693/15p.170WhatInfluencesDecisionsinYourLife?***

    The whole world is going in the way of destruction, but Christians cannot afford to turn and follow it in its mad race toward rebellion, hate and finally death. They cannot slow down, take time out to travel side roads, or follow others who do not know where they are going. Yet, this is exactly what Christians would be doing if they participated in office parties and company conventions or outings where, because of their association, they could be induced to let down their moral guard. At our place of employment have we been influenced by fellow workers to join in competitive sporting groups or leagues that rob us of our time for Bible study and for preaching the good news of God?s kingdom? This is unnecessary worldly association that can influence us to make wrong decisions and can easily lead to acts of immorality. The Watch Tower Bible and Tract Society has in its files records of just such cases.

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    Students who come home every day find that even their limited association with worldly schoolmates can exert a powerful negative influence on their spirituality.

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    Some Christians have gone astray by getting too involved in business activities, by cultivating close friendships with worldly associates, or by becoming emotionally attached to someone of the opposite sex when they are not free to marry.

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    We must also be on guard against extended association with worldly people. Perhaps it is a neighbor, a school friend, a workmate, or a business associate. We may reason, ?He respects the Witnesses, he leads a clean life, and we do talk about the truth occasionally.? Yet, the experience of others proves that in time we may even find ourselves preferring such worldly company to that of a spiritual brother or sister.

    *** w888/15p.6Success?AtAllCosts?***

    Even after becoming a Christian, one African businessman?s love for financial success kept on taking first place in his life. He neglected Christian activities in favor of social visits with worldly business associates. He made no spiritual progress, despite efforts by elders of his congregation to help him. He thus found himself in a spiritual quandary?in a no-man?s-land where he was hardly a Christian yet wanted to be recognized as one. All of us can appreciate that his situation was not conducive to deep satisfaction in life or to lasting happiness.

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    *** w018/15p.16Abraham?AnExampleofFaith***

    We may have opposition from unbelieving family members, including disfellowshipped relatives, who might try to lure us into unwholesome association. (Matthew 10:34-36; 1 Corinthians 5:11-13; 15:33) Abram thus set a fine example for us. He put friendship with Jehovah ahead of everything?even family ties.

    *** w954/1p.22MyDecisiontoAdvancetoMaturity***

    Meanwhile, I could see that association with my family was putting my own spirituality in danger, so upon request to the Watch Tower Society, I was given a new assignment, in Miles City, Montana.

    *** w9510/1p.8DoesGodComeFirstinYourFamily?***

    To obey what Jesus called the first commandment?the most important one?requires that we always do what pleases Jehovah. Jesus did, even though on one occasion the apostle Peter took exception to Jesus? course, and on another his own close relatives did too. (Matthew 16:21-23; Mark 3:21; John 8:29) What if you find yourself in a similar situation? Say that family members want you to cease your Bible study and your association with Jehovah?s Witnesses. Will you put God first by doing what pleases him? Does God come first, even when family members may oppose your efforts to serve him?

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    When an individual shows interest in the truth, we can be sure that he will encounter opposition in one form or another. Our calling back soon after the initial contact is made will strengthen him to withstand any pressures he faces from relatives, close friends, and others.

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  • ziddina

    As with Christians who cannot understand that atheists do not "believe" in the theory of evolution because the Christians DO "believe", so also the Jehovah's Witness family members would translate their non-believing relatives' discomfort and social avoidance as "shunning", because that is their main frame of reference.

    They are embedded in that mindset...

  • Chariklo
    Making the needed changes in our lifestyle
    was not easy. I had stopped growing tobacco
    because doing so conflicts with Bible principles.
    (2 Corinthians 7:1; James 2:8) It took
    some time before we found acceptable employment
    that provided a steady income.
    Also, for many years after that, some of our
    relatives refused to visit us. We tried to treat
    them according to Bible principles by showing
    them love. Eventually, the barriers came
    down, and now our close relatives no longer shun us

    Well spotted, therevealer!

    I have a feeling that they are aware that the world, i.e. everyone else apart fropm JW's, are increasingly criticising this horrible practice. So they've turned fact on its head and are deliberately using the "shun" word to imply that it''s the world that does the shunning; the good Christians following the WT are merely seprating themselves from Satan's influence.

    Propaganda, pure and simple.

  • Disillusioned Lost-Lamb
    Disillusioned Lost-Lamb

    I too see the irony in this paragraph; we’re supposed to be tickled pink the family eventually came around, but if the tables were turned no “true” witless would ever concede.

    This reeks of a wash-towel spin cycle to me.

    I would like to know if this is what actually happened; what “barrier” was there really?

    Did the family come around to accepting him, or did he really have to lower his barrier instead?

    Most non-witless people don’t actively practice shunning; did his family actually shun him?


    Did he chose to discontinue associating with them because the WTBT$ pushes the idea of disconnecting yourself from worldly friends and family who don’t accept the “good news” and, since they got a craw-full of wash-towel BS, they asked him to knock-it-off?

  • tiki

    The relatives refused to visit them? That means they were pursuing their relationship with the worldlies...which means they weren't towing the line like all those quotes Blondie has so carefully plucked out for the group. It's just another one of those obnoxious little digs about how wonderful an example some unknown person sets. Absolutely no proof, just little carefully devised statements.

  • BluesBrother

    This experience in Awake 2005 9/1 p25 describes a family of Mennonites who became Witnesses . Shock and horror at their treatment from the old community :

    A few days later, the church elders came to the home of Johann’s family with an ultimatum for the interested ones: “We heard that Jehovah’s Witnesses visited you. You must forbid them to return, and unless you hand over their literature to be burned, you face expulsion.” They had had just one Bible study with the Witnesses, so this presented a formidable test.

    “We cannot do as you ask,” replied one of the family heads. “Those people came to teach us the Bible.” How did the elders react? They expelled them for studying the Bible! This was a cruel blow indeed. The cart belonging to the colony cheese factory passed by the home of one family without collecting their milk, denying them their only source of income.

    Again , what would happen if the family went the other way???

  • 00DAD

    This is just ANOTHER example of the blatant hypocrisy of the WTBTS and their mindless followers.

    They have no problem justifying behavior and actions on their part which they would loudly condemn if done by others!


    • When I do it, it is GOOD. When you do it, it is BAD!
    • I am GOOD. You are BAD!
    • Whatever I do is GOOD. Whatever you do is BAD!
    • My actions, beliefs and behaviors define what is GOOD; yours defines what is BAD!
    • Even if we think, believe or do the same thing, it doesn't matter: when I do it, it is GOOD; when you do it, it is BAD!
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