Isn`t this so sad ?.......My neice

by smiddy 7 Replies latest jw friends

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  smiddy

  I will go back a few years during the mid 1980`s,we were living in s.e.qld and had an opportunity for our neice to stay with us for some time,a young teenager,attractive and an accomplished muscian,piano- violin.My wife and I were strong in the truth,well so we thought I was a MS and my wife was well in with the elders wives,and we went on many social activities with elders and MS servants,camping ,restuarants,etc.etc.You know the drill.Our niece stayed with us at least 6 months before she went back home to victoria some 1000 miles away.Previous to this ,we knew this girl since birth and we were instumental in her mother becoming a JW b4 that.So their has been a lot of history going on here.So during that 6 months she was involved with all our socializing and meeting attendance,witnessing and whatever.In short we had a lot of contact with this girl.My niece kept in contact with her mother often leaving the kids while she went off doing her own thing,shopping socializing or whatever.

  Fastforward to recent events: Her mother stopped associating many years ago,my wife and I stopped many more years ago,but that was never a problem with our communication with her.

  About 2 years ago her mother decided she`d had enough of her husbands flings and left him,he was never a JW

  My sil happened to move to a house about half a dozen houses from her daughter,she came once and said something like familys should stick together when things get tough,gave her a memorial invitation,but wouldn`t come inside the house,she was too busy,then left. She hasn`t been back since and that was something like 2 years ago.She used to leave her 2 boys with my sil while she did her errands,her boys 13 & 11 ? have never been up to see my sil,. their great grandmother was living with my sil at this time none of them have ever been up to visit her or inquire about her health even though she has had a stroke some 12months ago,and she is 89 years old .Why am I bringing this up now ? Well I happened to be down at a club having a few ales waiting for my wife to come home from seeing her mother,when I saw my neice and her family having a meal in the dining room after field service no doubt.....and I just looked at them.....and I thought ....just how sad it was >>>>>

  smiddy
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  smiddy

  I have an update to this original post which probably wouldnt surprise most of you.

  My sil received a phone call from her daughter who she hadn`t had any contact with for the past 3 years almost to the day.And remember they live in the same street about 15 houses apart.

  What follows is not a word for word discussion but a generalisation of what transpired

  JWdaughter : Hi mom we havent talked for a long time,and we shouldnt let things get out of hand,I dont want to meet you down the street thinking you hate me or you thinking I hate you,I dont want that .

  Mom : No I dont want that either,your my daughter and I love you ,and I would want a relationship with you and my grandchildren whom I havent seen these past three years.

  JWdaughter : can I come and visit you

  sil : of course you can

  What happened at the visit went something like this: JW daughter I miss you mom and we had a special talk on sunday that said It`s" Later Than You Think "

  and i dont want to see you die at armageddon,jehovah loves you and wants all former witnesses to come back to the fold while their is still time.

  The time left is reduced",the world is in a dark place not knowing where to turn" actual quote .

  This witness daughter never got in touch with her Grandmother and in her 90`s who was never a witness, after she had a stroke even though she only lived 300 meters away.

  In the past 3 years jw daughter has never contacted her sister who was never baptised

  And she has never contacted her auntie ,uncle or cousinns who also live in the same locality

  And just as an afterthought the jw daughter has never contacted any of her relations who are not jehovah`s witnesses since she became a jehovahs witness

  smiddy
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  ziddina

  Hi, Smiddy....

  Doggone it, when I saw this thread bumped, I was hoping for a better situation - something like, [niece] "Hi, mom! We've been thinking about things, and frankly, we're both having some doubts about this whole "Armageddon is just around the corne" thing... Hubby bought "Crisis of Conscience", and we've both read it, and we'd like to talk with you about it, since you've been 'out' for a while..."

  Sorry to hear that the niece is still 'in'.... And her strangely cold behavior towards nearly all of her non-JW relatives...
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  smiddy

  Thx zidd,it was to much to hope for.But I think their might be still hope for her 2 boys,one 15 and the other one 12 I think.The younger one rejected home schooling,he enjoys the fellowship he gets at school.The older one was baptized a couple of years ago ,and boys being boys its just a matter of time b4 the elders put the heavies on him and he reacts.I havent been able to speak with any of them in 3 years even though we live in a small community.

  smiddy
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  LV101

  Is this normal --- watchtower using special talks to rev up their devout to put big pressure on their former family members? They must really be getting desperate.
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  LV101

  Smiddy --- sorry this is hitting your family and wish we could all do something to fight back.
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  ziddina

  Aw, Smiddy...

  I am so sad to hear that you haven't been able to talk to them...

  What a rotten cult...
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  Broken Promises

  She sounds like a stuck-up bitch. And I'm being nice about it.

  ((((Smiddy))))