Has anyone else read "The Four Agreements"

by Cagefighter 3 Replies latest jw friends

  • Cagefighter
    Cagefighter

    I just did last week. It really helped me and I highly recommend it for any X-JW or human being, period. I am curious what others thought of this from the X-JW perspective.

  • palmtree67
    palmtree67

    It's been a while since I read it, but Yes.

    I thought it was very good.

    I read his second book, too.

    But I like this part the best: ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST

    "Under any circumstance, always do your best, no more and no less. But keep in mind that your best is never going to be the same from one moment to the next. When you wake up in the morning refreshed and energized, your best will be different than when you are tired at night. Your best will be different when you are healthy, as opposed to sick.

    If you try too hard to do more than your best, you will spend more energy than is needed and in the end, your best will not be enough. When you overdo, you deplete your body. and it takes you longer to accomplish your goal. If you do less than your best, you subject yourself to frustrations, self-judgement, guilt and regrets.

    Just do your best in any circumstance in your life. Say no when you want to say no, and yes when you want to say yes. You have the right to be you. You can only be you when you do your best.

    Don't expect that you will always be able to be impeccable with your word. Don't expect that you will never take anything personally. Don't expect that you will never make another assumption. Don't expect that you will never make another mistake.

    But you can certainly always do your best."

    ( Nice to see you again, Cagey! )

  • TweetieBird
    TweetieBird

    I read "The Four Agreements" a long time ago and loved it. It's a little different but when you get to the end of each chapter it makes a lot of sense. I also have "The Mastery of Love" which is really good too.

  • 3dogs1husband
    3dogs1husband

    BTTT really enjoying this book.... I like how he talks about our belief systems - very powerful for us born ins!

    Cheers!

    www.amazon.ca/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319

    here is a copy of one amazon review:

    THE FOUR AGREEMENTS (see also Section 11) by don Miguel
    Ruiz is a short yet powerful book that contains useful advice
    about how to recognize self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and
    create needless suffering . . . based on ancient Toltec wisdom, the
    agreements seem to be so basic to apply--but in reality they
    are much more difficult to implement.

    Nevertheless, I still find myself thinking about them and how
    to relate what they say to my daily life . . . should you want
    to join me in the task, consider how you can:

    BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD
    Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the
    word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power
    of your word in the direction of truth and love.

    DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
    Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a
    projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are
    immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the
    victim of endless suffering.

    DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
    Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really
    want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid
    misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one
    agreement, you can completely transform your life.

    ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
    Your best is going to change from moment to moment, it will be different
    when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance,
    simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse
    and regret.

    Also, I very much liked this one other passage:
    Making assumptions in our relationships is really asking for problems.
    Often we make the assumption that our partners know what we
    think and that we don't have to say what we want. We assume they
    are going to do what we want, because they know us so well. If
    they don't do what we assume they should do, we feel so hurt and
    say, "You should have known."

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