why would she still talk to me?

by chickpea 8 Replies latest jw friends

  • chickpea
    chickpea

    a younger woman from the KH i had attended
    made a specific effort to greet me in the parking
    lot of the grocery store after having walked past
    my vehicle with my very obvious bumper stickers
    for PFLAG and a political campaign... you know,
    the kind of thing you notice on the way up to
    a door to get a feel of who might answer ....

    it was very causal, very quick and very awkward.....

    THEN, we end up in the fruit/veg section together...
    more awkwardness, as i toss off a compliment
    about the hair color she is sporting, she laughs
    and says it is "this or grey" and then leaves....

    ....only to COME BACK to tell me that my son
    who works as a checker at the grocery store
    "is always so pleasant and helpful"

    true, it was hardly a revisit to the pretty close
    relationship we had one time shared... i mean
    really, i attended her at both her hospital births
    as a labor coach, spent many nights at HER home
    away from my family helping her take care of the
    twins when they were newborn.... and done some
    of the things for and with her that REAL friends do.....

    but her family is (or at least was) HARD CORE...
    so why would she go out of her way to even say "hi?"

    i dunno, it seems like there could be a chink in the armor
    and some JWs arent as compliant as they once were...

    hard to say.... all i know is that i was pretty surprised

    for all i know next time it could swing the other way

  • Lozhasleft
    Lozhasleft

    Sounds like she still misses her good pal to me? Damn the WTBS and the divisions they cause.

    Loz x

  • Reality79
    Reality79

    With some witnesses, when they see that your eyes are not glowing red and you don't have blood dripping from your teeth, natural human decency kicks in and they'll actually show some common courtesy and greet you. Other times, they'll do it somewhat begrudgingly with the purpose of making you remember the "love" (lol) from the "brothers and sisters" in order to "encourage" you to return to the flock.

    But generally, as we all know, most times they'll avoid you like the plague because they believe that just being in your vicinity is going to cause a legion of wicked spirits to fly at them. It's just a shame when people who actually knew you intimately for years behave like that, but that's cults for you.

  • ssn587
    ssn587

    You can always hope that she has seen the light, you know the new light, hopefully she will start being your friend again. Let's hope she isn't on a mission to look for dirt, and covers herself with being semi-friendly. But at least hope for the best.

  • chickpea
    chickpea
    Let's hope she isn't on a mission to look for dirt, and covers herself with being semi-friendly.

    oh, mate, that was a LOL moment!!

    there is no need to look for dirt since
    i am very public with my return to
    the world TM , because i have become
    visibly associated with the LGBT
    advocacy group PFLAG, serving on
    its board, as well as actively supporting
    political candidates with signage and
    campaign bumper stickers....

    i dont need (or actually want) friendship
    with any of the JWs, since i could NOT
    abide any chatter about the truth TM
    so even IF there is a thaw and some
    sort of continued nodding acknowledgement,
    i dont think i would step beyond common
    courtesy...

    now, if they wanna get all apostate and such.....
    then that is a horse of a VERY different colour!!!!

  • QuestioningEverything
    QuestioningEverything

    Sounds to me like she misses your friendship.

  • Magwitch
    Magwitch

    I am sure she realizes that you are the real thing, unlike most of the people she associates with.

  • scary21
    scary21

    She can't help herself. She still loves you deep down.

  • chickpea
    chickpea

    well, if there is any veracity to the suggestions
    that she might be coming unplugged from the
    hive, then she knows where to find me since
    i have been in this same location for 22 years!

    that would be UTTERLY awesome....

    but i am not going to invest a lot of faith in it.....
    call me doubting thomas, i think she is a willing
    captive too enmeshed to want to have to do
    what she'd have to do to get free and clear

    fair play to her....

    i would never refuse to return her greetings

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