~~~ an imperial nod....

by chickpea 9 Replies latest jw experiences

  • chickpea
    chickpea

    it was a classic moment of JW-ery

    my son, who happens to be a female to male
    transgender 17 YO boy, was with me at the
    (as in THE only) grocery store in town, where
    LOTS of people are stocking up for a late winter
    blast that could leave 16 inches of snow and
    power outages in its wake....

    there was a JW sistah TM who saw us, and i just smiled
    and said "hi ya", since i determined a while back that
    i simply dont play their game or respect their stance...
    ( i would have used her name if i could recall it!!)

    i kid you not! she tried to look away, but she could NOT
    hide her smile ( as mine was genuine, since i really did
    like her, and probably still could) and she literally gave
    me and my son what can only be described as an imperial nod....
    eye-contact, broad smile, and a dip of the chin, but not a word
    passed her lips...

    i just chuckled and shrugged my shoulders and kept discussing
    with my son what our options might be for food that we may not
    be able to cook or heat..... she left very shortly after that

  • wasblind
    wasblind

    Good for you and your child chickpea,

    I had a visit this weekend, blinds wide open

    they cold see me and I could see them they rang

    the bell this time and knocked, I wasn't up to takin'

    any visitors, just didn't feel like it , I wonder how they

    like them apples. They did leave some lit though, so at

    least they will be able to report a placement

  • Satanus
    Satanus

    Yah, good. And, a person needs to say it loud enough, so that they can't pretend to not hear ya.

    S

  • pbrow
    pbrow

    I have recieved similar. The same smile and awkward look down from them. Its like they are ashamed but they are unable to overcome their shame from doing something so unchristian.

    pbrow

  • chickpea
    chickpea

    pbrow

    (firstly, hello and welcome to JWN)

    i think you are spot on with your assessment....

    the KH i attended had JWs from at least half dozen
    small surrounding communities, of which this town
    is one, and this woman came to the B/S at our home
    for over 10 years, my kids called her grandma "cxxxx"
    so it isnt like there wasnt a viable relationship....

    i think she might know it is crap but she is single
    getting older by the day, and unlikely to leave
    since the KH is her sole community support....

    but i really think she knows....

  • charlie brown jr.
  • GOrwell
    GOrwell

    thanks charlie.. I just had to watch kill bill 2 all over again cause of that clip :)

  • Scooby-Doo
    Scooby-Doo

    chickpea: First of all, you are a great mother for supporting your son! If only transgender children raised in JW families had parents like you...

    I haven't had the nod yet. But there was an experience i had recently that is very similar. I was shopping with my mother when we spotted the JW that i had studied with for 5-ish years. He spoke with my mother but ignored me. He did that staring-at-you-but-trying-to-not-be-obvious thing.

    Not a single JW has spoken to me since i stopped studying, it's curious.

  • chickpea
    chickpea

    thanks for the "nod" scooby-doo....
    i dont think it extraordinary for a parent to,
    oh you know, support their kids in a really
    REALLY difficult circumstance they did not
    invite or create
    !!!! call me crazy but i think
    that is what a parent is supposed to do.....

    the more i consider this little non-event
    the more i realize that i really dont know
    what i could have or would have said to
    this JW, except maybe talk about the
    weather.....

    i know for sure i would not have wanted
    to hear ANYTHING about how close, really
    REALLY close "the end" TM was, in light of
    all the upheaval and catastrophe currently
    crowding the stage....

    i also know she would not want to be
    updated on how often i write to my
    elected officials about marriage
    equality and other policies that i have
    sincere opinions about.... or how close
    i am getting to completing a degree...

    i suppose the nod was as friendly as it needs to be....

    (i am SO glad my son was there to witness it, tho...
    bordering on priceless and good for a chuckle)

  • charlie brown jr.
    charlie brown jr.

    No problem love my movie clips that feel like things we live thru

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